I figured I'd stick my two cents in here.
You are up against three problems as I see it:
1) He lies like a rug
2) You move around alot and it's hard to find good friends
3) He has already cheated
If I were you my first order of business would be the lying!
I would tell him in no uncertain terms that any lie from today
on is a deal breaker and I would leave , no questions asked!
I personally think lying is a habit, for a multiple amount of reasons
but this is your partner in life, and if he can't keep you informed
with the truth, the relationship should slowly sink in the west anyway!
Sounds like you have become almost obsessed with his
comings and goings.........manipulation that keeps you on guard
all the time.
Friends....I agree .....Get your game on gurl!!!
Put on those red stilettos and take yourself to a nice restaurant
and have a magnificent meal.Maybe some very cultured Gentleman
sitting at the table next to yours is in the same predicament with
his spouse..be friendly to strangers.
( LMAO...did I just say that)
The best predictor of behavior is PAST behavior.........sorry
I have been married more than a few times and will tell you what
I tell them straight out of the chute.
If you cheat on me, I will know, but never let you know I know!
I will also cheat on you, but it will be years till you find out
and by then I will have spent all of your money anyway
( Never had one try me either.....
Honey, take a breath !