reply to post by FunkTSkunk
As for my own case, I'm 16 and have a boyfriend who's 18. You all may think that this could be the stereotypical 16 year old speaking but he
really does mean a lot to me, even if we're not going to run off and get married (we're not, no worries.)
That kind of ties in with the age of consent law, don't you think? What's the opinion on that?
Emotionally, and maturity-wise, there is ZERO difference between most 18 yr old boys, and 16 yr old girls. As for age of consent, you have to realize
that in the US, a sex offender is a sex offender.
There is NO differentiation, so if you do the deed, and someone calls him out on it, it could potentially ruin his life forever. Now, personally, I
think it's ridiculous. Kids are going to have sex at 16, it's a given, but since the law is what it is, I'm just trying to give you some honest truth
here. Yes, it's stupid, but the potential damage you could do to this young man's future isn't worth you admitting you're sleeping with this guy. (We
already know you are, just continue to keep it on the down low).
The other part of this is...you two probably think you're in love, and destined to be together for the rest of your lives and blah, blah, blah.
It's touching, and romantic, but not very realistic. NEITHER of you knows what you really want in a mate yet, nor even who and what you are yet...
Simply put, you're both too young to really realize what it will take to make for a successful marriage. Don't shoot the messenger. I'm a guy who
believes people should only marry in their 30's, because only then are they mature enough to handle it. Otherwise, you get married, have kids, and
then 10 years later one of you is stepping out on the other one, because you never even knew each other when you got all entangled.
Sure, there are exceptions (and you're betting you're one of them). You aren't. Simple statistics state otherwise.
Now, I'm not saying you two shouldn't be together, or even not get married.
I'm just saying, make sure you REALLY know each other well, and have lived together a while as husband and wife, before you go rushing into
parenthood, and then screwing up kids lives now, should you two decide it isn't the fairy tale you thought it was.
Ok, I'm posting this as a bastard step child to the Spanish guys' question about the 25 year old man and 14 year old girl.
THIS is WAY different from your situation. This isn't love, it's child molestation, any way you slice it. Not only legally, but morally as well. It
has nothing to do with the simple math. In other words, this is a difference of 11 years...but if this was a 21 yr old and a 32 yr old, it would be
perfectly fine. The reason it isn't, is beyond the whole LAW issue, the 14 yr old is NOT mature enough to make these kinds of decisions or handle this
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