posted on Dec, 17 2003 @ 02:28 PM
This really has nothing to do with the site but I still think it's worth posting.
Targets Through A Rapist's
Eyes - Protect Yourself
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other
hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women w! ith short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around
to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and
can be easily overpowered.
4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worry about
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you
isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys are
not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these criminals you're not
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or
stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like 'what time is it,' or make general small talk, 'I can't believe it is so cold out
here,' or 'we're in for a bad winter' etc. Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell 'Stop' or 'Stay back!' Most of the rapists this man talked to
said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling 'I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY'
and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with your strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind,
pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh -- HARD. One woman in a class said she used the
underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her. She was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands and the guy needed
stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely
painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they
want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them
as possible.. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course, the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd
behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was
PLEASE READ THEN FORWARD THIS TO EVERY WOMAN YOU KNOW. IT'S SIMPLE STUFF, BUT IT COULD SAVE HER LIFE. PASS IT ON TO EVERY MAN YOU KNOW TO SHARE WITH
THE WOMAN IN HIS LIFE, TOO.
Miriam E. Schoengarth
Metrolink Passenger Services