posted on Nov, 14 2008 @ 12:20 PM
Originally posted by Anonymous ATS
I know exactly what you are saying, and I agree with you 100%. It has happened to me one too many times.
I go to a high end gym for my workouts. I met a gentlemen years back. He is younger than me and far better looking. I have felt all of what you have
said. One time I talked to him for a bit. Immediately after we taked, the lights to the gym turn off. I head to the locker room and I start feeling
ill and upset to my stomach. I puke my guts out and I feel so light headed for a good while. The second time as I was eating, just by him passing
close by me, I start feeling ill and again, the same process as before. I have gathered that this person has a very dark side and is having issues
with his orientation. I have had to put distance from him.
He has always seen me at the gym and has followed me around in the past. I see him at the gym all the time. The other day, I just said hi to show that
I mean no harm.
It's very scary.
I actually have had the same experience as you had regarding that gentleman. (Sorta.) There can be several reasons you feel depleted by someone. One
of the reasons could be that you (not that I'm saying it's true in your case), if you somehow are jealous of a person, it can be because of many
reasons, either it's a person's whole appearance, for ex. if a persons appearance in itself is overwhelming in terms of energy/aura/fitness.
It can feel as if that person who depletes you is very open and sort of expects you (in a certain way) to have the same openness back and you are
really a shy person or being more enclosed, (note, that he, being open, is secure about his own openness and is confident in his own feelings, or he
would close himself a bit up to make sure he doesn't get harmed, but he's confident in his emotions and himself so he's certain it's nothing wrong
with him and he gives you a strange, humoured look). Specifically if there is an "extreme" gap between the two of you; he is very open in his way of
being and you are very enclosed, he might be able to immediately see your 'weak spots' and make you feel interrogated in a most perverse manner. (If
he is relentlessly vicious, he has the potential to drain you completely.)
Another reason could be he's a vital/healthy/fit/radiant little jock-head with a goonish attitude towards people who are less
vital/healthy/fit/radiant and he has this tendency to pick and target those.
But let me tell you, I met a yoga-teacher a year back or so with a rather massive ego. Because I'm an introverted shy guy (in social relations at
least) and she an extroverted confident and open person she quickly found her way to interrogate me completely and made me feel trapped, hopeless, I
could barely breathe and I just wanted to fall over and go into coma. And then afterwards when I gathered myself I realised that she's a shallow
person with actually low self-esteem who need to put up a certain fixed façade so she could get other people to idolise her, she needed a vast amount
of self-gratification to tend to her twisted self-image. And she probably doesn't even know that she's a massive energy vampire because by the look
of it, she's probably been that way for so long she's not even aware of it, she thinks it's a right thing to assume that life is all about being
the best. But I can't really blame her since she was a bit younger than me and probably too young to understand that if you want to be perceived as
someone stamped with; 'i-love-yoga, zen-is-my-mind' all over your head with beads and all that poser # like a spiritual freebooter you should
atleast be aware that ahimsa (non-violence) concerns other people too, not just yourself. There is a certain twisted thing these people who are
super-kind to themselves and at the same time utterly evil to others at the other end of the table at same time, and enjoying watching other mindful
people suffer from their shallowness, all this at the same time.
[edit on 14-11-2008 by Eldnord]