Not sure if im coming from a different perspective here.... I am white and my wife is Black... we live in Britain and have experianced racism against
us by white and black people.
I met my wife at work and our relationship soon grew... almost everybody in work excepted us and we had no problems except from 3 black women (who
where our freinds until we told them we was in a relationship)
They approached my wife one day and asked her why she couldnt find herself a "nice black man" she was obviously offended by this and had a few
choice word that she chucked at them (which i cant repeat in the forums hehe)
Then they started abusing me and we decided to go to the boss... i did wonder if the boss would do anything but he did us proud... the women no longer
work for the company.
My wife was also called a niger by a white man once... he then got a perfect view of the sky with me standing above him haha
Anywho... to get to the point...
would we have been as offended if the girls didnt want us to be together because they simply didnt like me? Would i have punched the man lights out if
he had called my wife a bitch...
The truth is no!
The reason for this is because it demonstrates a hatred towards someone, not because you do not like them, but because you do not like there whole
If somone simply doesnt like you because of a valid reason then fine... but dont hate me because of the colour of my skin... that is unexceptable.
The reason why, i believe, you cannot use words like 'n-word', honky, chink etc... even if there is no malice or ill intent is because hatred
inevitably creeps in over time.
I dont even use the words "Blacks" or "Whites" i prefer to always put the word people on the end... It acts as a way to remind us that we are
dealing with humans...
Black/white people sounds less harsh than blacks/whites - but that is just my opinion
Hmmm... not sure if im explaining myself very well... sorry...
I think what im trying to say is when you stop refering to people as individuals and only refering to them collectivly you generalise millions of
people (which nobody has the right to do) Im sure most of us on these forums know there is good and bad in everyone...
Im sure in 1930s germany there was slang that was widely used to describe jewish people... maybe not with malice at first... but as problems started
to arrise these words would have been used in more scathing, venomous and swepping statements. The words helped to cultivate the seeds of hatred that
Hitler had planted. IT made the hatred easier because it dehumanised. And the same applies today.
Let use a hypothetical example...
When a white person comits a crime in a white comunity (that has racist tendencys) does the comunity say "Them honkeys are causing trouble again"
No! they would simply report the crime and maybe say "it was a white man" for no other reason then to describe his apperance... the people who this
hypothetical crime is reported to would then simple show some concern and maybe say something like "thats terrible"
Unyet if a black man commits a crime in the same hypothetical comunity it would go something like this...
"Those 'n-word's are causing trouble again"
Nods in agrement "yep... its a real problem"
Now the second example sounds more like someone talking about a rat infestation... they have dehumanised, not just the offender, but his whole
before you know it black people are no longer people... they are 'n-word's...
And for those of you who think that by not being allowed to use racist words is somehow an errosion of your rights.. concider the rights of the people
who just want to walk down the street and be judged on there individual merit... Not labeled alongside 30 billion other people who you have never met
but for some reason have an opinion of...
Sorry for going on to long
Oh.. one last thing... please excuse any typos or spelling mistakes... its 1:15am here and my spellcheck is broken hehe
[edit on 12-1-2007 by undercoverchef]