posted on Jan, 3 2007 @ 08:09 PM
Some toughts on the social pecking orders and male-female balance in sit-X, but i assume it would be polite to clarify my background first, so that
readers understand my context. I'm a man in my 20's, live in Finland and in a relationship (not married, but living with a woman)
I've observed a very clear difference in how droup dynamics work between male and female groups. Women seem to be constantly aware about which one of
them is the "most wanted" or popular and the social order revolves around looks and desirability. (Observations are based on younger women)
On the other hand a male group organises more "task orientedly". For example I may lead by friends while moving through a new city and while doing
that i'm the top dog, in other situations someone else may be the leader. And all this happens without anyone even noticing it. (mostly)
Perfect place to observe this behaviour is in High School/University
When i was in highschool girls from different "social groups" couldn't tolerate each other, but on the other hand most Boys got along farely well,
sure fights every now and then, but if it was useful to work together those were "cleared" fast.
Chivalry is not dead, most men here try to treat women well, it's just not received too well by some women. ie. Don't shout equality if you don't
want to be treated like on of the guys.
Gender doesn't determinate your skills in any situation, best shooter in out brigade was a girl and one of the best kindergarder teachers i know is a
man (ex-officer). It's all about personal skills and personalities.
Ps. Tom, yes i went to a public school and i'm proud of it, hey our school system is the best in the world by PISA tests