These are things that you you can say now,but may be different if they ever happened.imho
Based on my previous ex's...
My ex cheated on me twice, and I forgave him both times, and because of that I have an std because I wanted sooo badly
to be in-love and with
I told my man that I have trust and faith in him. I'll always love him, but I draw the line. I will walk home if need be (and I live 1400 miles from
Because I had to learn also there are far worse things than infidelity.My twin boys may not even be my own.Though this is not what caused the
separation though it did contribute its part.
I won't argue that there are far worse things, overall, than infidelity. However, I cannot put the same level of energy, trust, faith, et cetera,
into the relationship knowing that he has so little respect for me.
We told each other that if our hearts ever went in another direction, we'd tell the other one before acting. To do otherwise just leads to bad
How would you feel about your partner,if he has the same limits as your putting on the success or failure of your love.
I'm fine with it, frankly. He can take a hit much better than I can
but it's the point of respect. We've both been cheated on, and done the
cheating. It's not a game we want to play anymore. If he ever hit me, and my father found out, my father would drop everything and come out here with
Nevermind my reaction... (it involves superglue - that's all I'm gonna say.)
Can you slap his face,if he said something inconsiderate,does a sideward glance at another woman constitute unfaithfulness etc. and can you do
the same etc etc
I'd never slap him. (I've said it before, and I'll say it again: I've never raised my hand to another person in a malicious manner.)
He can look, I can look. There's a difference between looking and touching, between admiring/scoffing and flirting.
In fact, I found out today that he's got two ladies at work who are subtley trying to seduce him! *shrug* I trust him enough to tell me if he wants
someone else. I trust him enough to let him go to work without me chained to his... um.. yeah.
If I cannot trust him, then there's no real relationship, imo.
As my grandfather put it: I'll walk next to you, and I'll fight next to you. I'll defend you when you can't defend yourself. But I am not going to
fight over you.
Or, as I put it: We've joined as travellers on the same path. I'll enjoy your company, you enjoy mine. Whenever our paths separate, then so be it.
But at least we'll know we had a good time.
All I`m trying to say is sometimes its not so cut and dry and love for your partner or child is quit limitless if you love them.Doesn`t mean to
say you wont argue or be silent when things are wrong,because love is also not being silent when they are wrong.
So love can be an arguement,just not stamping ones feet to get their own way for the sake of imature selfishness or need.
We discuss, we debate. I think we've argued... *thinks*.... twice in the 4 years we've been together. We disagree on many things, but we both love a
Though I would rather you slapped the back of my head for being so stupid to begin a relationship with her in the first place,so feel free to
slap away.seriously.I`ve tried to myself but cant get a big enough swing.
While I'm sure I could knock you ass over tea-kettle, I won't. However, I will offer a hug, and ask if you learned your lesson...
Life is about mistakes. If you didn't make that mistake with her, then it might have been with someone else, or the situation reversed...
There's no point to beating yourself up over something stupid (even stupendously retarded!) that's in the past. I'm learning to forgive myself, but
I won't forget the lessons I've learned. (It's much harder to forgive the ex though...
Your teet is being suckled your the one paying for them to do it,those who do rape the system and use children in this way bleed it from the
So I`m in agreeance here as well,though I`ll put up with more from a partner than I will from others bleeding from me.I cant stop others or the Gov
but I make much much more noise about it.
Although, to be fair, I get my tax monies back because I don't make enough! (the blessings of being a college student...) Last year, I let them keep
the money because I had to get food stamps before I found work.
And I agree - I put up with a lot from my man... and he puts up with a lot from me. Give and take, take and give.
However, I'm learning to stand up for myself at the same time. With my ex, I was (as one could colorfully put it) a doormat girlfriend. A puppy on a
string, happy to have someone at the other end.
Now, I walk side-by-side with my man.
Well dorks are good in my book then,and I`m assuming then your still fairly young?
Well, mentally, I feel like I'm 40. Really, I'm 25. Yourself?
Don't worry about grammar... I'm going to graduate with a bachelor's degree in English, a minor in Philosophy, and I don't understand grammar.
(Seriously, I have no friggin' clue!! It's such a shame, and such a hallmark of the american 'education system' that it's pathetically
I liken intelligence to putty - education (which comes in many forms: institutions, life, et cetera) can give you tools and help you shape it, but
whatever putty you've got is what you've got.
And right now, I live near a pond (which looks stagnant, btw)... I'm closer to the Atlantic than I was 3 years ago, but that's not saying much.
(I'm originally from Milwaukee, WI, and right now I'm in Massachusetts.) I'd like to visit the ocean before I move back to the midwest, but I doubt
we'll do any fishing. (with all the crap that gets into the earth's water, I'm not so sure that I'd *want* to eat anything from the ocean...)
Okay, I'm almost out of characters.
Edited to add: The censors didn't censor my lewd language? hrm...
[edit on 2-2-2007 by Diseria]