I realized today a big oops on my part. How can you listen if you have not learned how to hear? This is by far the most important thing to learn.
This is why children are more open. This is why most people can not hear a thing.
First thing you need to do is learn how to be quiet. How to be observant instead of constantly thinking. As soon as you learn how to be quiet, you
will "hear" more than you ever imagined. I know that sounds like a big "duh" right? But I am serious, pay attention through out your day. How
often are you really quiet, with out a thought? After you pay attention to that, you will notice how difficult it is to stop.
You can not hear a thing if your mind is constantly preoccupied. Listening is more than just hearing something. Its observing the whole. Pay
attention not just to what you hear but what you see and how you feel. Another persons body language, their eyes. Pay attention to wildlife around
you and how they act/react. Pay attention to every living thing. Even plants tell you a lot. Put yourself in their shoes, even if it is an animal,
a plant or a rock. Imagine what it feels like. What you hear is only about 10% of what it takes to listen.
For a good two weeks, do not talk. At all. People only think you are a bit strange the first day. After that, they forget you are there. When you
stop talking, it becomes easier to quiet that voice in your head. Concentrate on a repetive sound, your breathing, your heartbeat, a clock ticking.
That helps quiet that voice. After that, just watch and listen to everything around you. If you hear your words popping back in your head, go back
to listening to a repetive sound until you are quiet again. After you find that easy, then you can start working speech back into your daily life.
BUT continue to try to quiet that voice down.
At some point in your day or eveing, write down what you have learned. Keep this down to once a day for 15 - 20 min. Notice how difficult it is for
your pen to keep up with your thoughts. Summerize the thoughts you have, using as few words as you can.
After you can make your mind be quiet, you will be amazed at what all you learn. Honestly, you will never be able to experience a thing, truely,
until you master this.
For me personally, even though I saw results with in the first day of being quiet, it took me a good year or two to really master this. It is like a
muscle you dont realize you have. For the first couple of weeks, I was astounded at what I learned, but it didnt take long for me to realize this was
going to be tougher than I thought. I still have to work at it. I forget, and my thoughts get loud. Then something happens to make me remember.
This is especially hard to do in your dreams. To sit back and watch your dreams, like you would a movie. To observe with out your own thoughts
that has been the most difficult. In dreams espeically, what you hear is only small fraction of what is actually there. To some it
is worth it, to others it is not. Some realize life was a lot easier when they were ignorant. At times I think the same and work hard at having the
loudest internal voice I can muster up.
I hope you try.