posted on Nov, 4 2006 @ 11:47 AM
what experiences do i draw off of?
what is my background for saying i know love, and women?
i've served as an airforce firefigher since june of 1998, with multiple deployments to warzones. i have stood in rank with angelic faces, and have
done battle in the darkest of places.
since 2000 i have had numerous female roomates who were exotic dancers in las vegas. i respected them, and their privacies. they had their own
bedrooms, and their own bathrooms. i learned to listen to their wisdoms, as they know many things about men, due to their experiences. their jobs
are more like a cheaper means of physcology, rather than something they should be ashamed of or guilty for. for the most part they help the men who
frequent their facilities by assisting them to face the same fears that prevent them from walking up to them on the streets, or outside the clubs.
for the most part the men who enter those establishments still do not know themselves well enough to have the courage to walk up to such a beautifull
creature in the real world, so they take their sense of controll, and/or their wish for control with their money to the clubs. at any rate, these
women do know men, and their minds. and to listen to their truths has aided me in understanding many reasons of why relationships fail.
prior to workig as a firefighter in the usaf, i spent nearly 10 years working closely with developmentally dissabled children. most of the children
we cared for could not verbalize, so we learn to read their eyes.
A sure fire way to open her up, and to explore her true feelings, fears, and her most intimate thoughts:
but, remember, this is a two way street. you learn from her truths, and you teach her about your understandings of reality, ok guys? no need to hold
back, don't judge her, and she will be more apt to not judge you.
you know where you stand in your relationship. you know the boundries of how intimate she is prepared to be without feeling threatened.
be her servant. approach her as her slave, and the slave of her loves, but try to lead her to the love of her truth, so she may know herself. and
when she knows herself, she will be far more capable of knowing you.
don't be afraid to exhalt her. put her before yourself. take a subserviant approach, and look up to her and in her eyes.
as you are massaging the first hand, speak softly, speak gently, speak in a tone that is nowhere near controlling or prideful. eye contact is
important, always. do not lie to her, speak only the truth of how you feel. but, when doing the first hand listen to her, ask her questions about
her truth. but above all when you are doing the first hand, let her bitch and complain about anything she needs to get out of her. let her vent, she
needs to, and you need to shutup and listen to her.
some steps in giving an effective hand massage, and why it is benificial:
it is benificial because you are stimulating the brain cells in her mind that are seldom used, due to being convinced that our hands nerves are not
feeling as much as they used to. you are creating sensations of relaxation in her mind, and by listening to her words, and absorbing the truth of
them, you are providing her a means to aid her in "defragging" her mind. and, if you so choose to be on your knees wearing little as you give her
this hand massage, and do it lovingly, then she will be far more apt to learn how to do the same for you, and in the same fashion.
1) with constant eye contact (as much as possible) you begin by asking her a pertinant question about what ever concerns she has on her mind, you
remain silent as possible while doing the first hand, and truly listen to her. with her palm facing the floor you put both hands on either side of
her hand, with the thumbs on the back of her hand, and use your longest finger and pointy finger to apply pressure in the center of her palm. you
squeeze gently, but as firmly as she can comfortably withstand. you slowly and smoothly pull outwards from the center to the left and right,
stretching the meaty sides of the hand outwards from center. do this 3, 5, or 7 times, depending upon how stressed she is.
2) use your thumb and index finger to reach in as far as you can between each of her digits (fingers). moving them side to side (the thumb will be
towards your right, and your finger towards the left, but crossing paths back and forth) as you pull softly, gently pinching softly the skin between
each finger, digit, and thumb. use your other hand to gently support her lower forearm or wrist. and remember, she should still be talking, and you
should still be listening, or asking her the right questions. do in between each digit the same amount of times you did the mass of her hand, back
3) use your fingernails to spirally scrape gently each finger, and thumb, starting at the base and moving towards the tip of her digits. it is still
her time, you are still hearing her. she is still the boss at this time.
4) gently and softly, but as firmly as she can comforatbly tolerate, pinch the ends of her fingers each time you scrape your fingernails across each
finger. pinch the ends and rub your fingers together each time you finish a digit, act as though you are trying to get dust, or sugar off your
fingers by brushing it off onto the floor.
5) do the second hand the same way, but this time is your time to tell her how you feel you may have wronged her. why will she be more apt to listen
to you now? look how relaxed she is. she likes equalibrium. she wants you to, and her cells want you to do the second hand as well. you have a
portion of her mind on your side, so she will be more open minded, so long as you share your truth with her. tell her how you were thinking when you
did something that upset her. tell her what your motivations were at the time. hate or fear should not be either of those motivations, but we know
that sometimes they are. don't be afraid to be honest with her, she needs to hear it, and she often times knows you better than you know yourself.
if she loves you, she can sense when you are lying, and even knows when you are lying to yourself. so, if you are close enough to her, shed a tear,
share a truth. look into her eyes and tell her not what she wants to hear, but what she needs to hear, your truth!
this is a helpfull tool to get to know someone better, without trying a one night stand that could be a dissaster. this is learning to know someone
first. this is learning to know what true sharing and true love can be, which transcends physicallity.
hope this helps, i try to explain as best as i can a method of openning up communications between members in a friendship, of other relationship. i
chose to address men, because women already know alot of stuff, they usually have more intuition, and empathy. their cells were compatible with their
mothers when they were in the womb. guys were more physical at the cellular level because we had to have a barrier up against the estrogen, which was
incompatible with our survival. so, women, please don't blame us with what we had to start with, sorry.
hope you guys like this, it helps.