posted on Dec, 19 2006 @ 03:50 PM
Originally posted by wellwhatnow
The issue did finally come to a head and now I don't think it was about money. I have no idea what it was really about. She wanted me to quit my
job and I did. She was really happy about that for a while. Now she's unhappy with me again. It seems like it's always something. I can't seem
to do anything right and I am just about to give up on the relationship. I love her, but I am tired of feeling like the loser that holds her back in
We do have a son though and this is really going to be hard on him.
Homosexual couples are a little bit harder for people to give normal advice to, I think. Evolutionarily speaking, women seek seek a spouse who is
more successful financially for security purposes. Scientific studies show that even rich women in general will not be happy with a spouse unless the
spouse is more successful than her. I'm not sure how that would play into a lesbian couple, as two women cannot each be more successful than the
other one. I think it's a shame you had to quit your job to try and remedy the situation, and I think it's even more of a shame that you feel like
giving up on your relationship.
Personally, I think quitting your job was not a good idea, especially if it was something you enjoyed. Studies also show that the key to a successful
relationship is that both
members of the relationship be happy independently. These studies also showed that the best cure for relationship
problems was for both members of the relationship to engage in exciting activities as a team. (If you want the references for these studies you'll
have to watch the documentary "Brainsex".)
I would hate for you to give up on your relationship, for yours, your spouses, and your child's sake. I would encourage you to do your best to work
this out. Communication is extremely important, but all communication must be tactful. If you and your lover truly love each other, things will most
definitely work out.
I'm sorry I don't have better advice for you. The truth is I'm the furthest thing from being an expert on relationships, but I feel very
passionately about love and I wanted to do whatever I could to help your situation. I wish you the best of luck and I hope it all works out for you
and your family!
[edit on 19/12/06 by an3rkist]