posted on Oct, 24 2006 @ 02:59 PM
Originally posted by clearwater
I find it a little harsh to say that families of suicide victims have been victims of their quest for fulfillment. People who die of cancer are not
accused of selfishness.
I think if a person is nurturing to others, they'll be more likely to survive a suicidal urge, if it ever comes their way.
I didn't mean it harshly. That's just the best way I could articulate what I meant.
People that are suicidal are often incapable of feeling happiness. Joy can actually be painful to some people, because they cannot dismiss the fact
that one day, the joy will end. So they make as little emotional investment in anything as possible so they won't be as burned when it eventually
Others may have a tiny spark of romance or a small fantasy of happiness which they eternally yearn for. Something as simple as being comforted by one
who becomes their true love. They try to find "the one" on their own, perhaps build a family, but for whatever reason it doesn't work, whether
it's through their own faults, outside circumstances, or a combination of the two. So they retreat further into themselves.
Usually such people are extremely dedicated workers at whatever they do, because they find comfort in either being good at at at least one
, or just having a routine may give them contentment. But for most it won't fulfill the fantasy, and in terms of feeling whole, the fantasy
is all they have.
People more educated than me have written several books on the subject, and I don't mean to discredit them or those that find sense in their writing,
but just as I believe a mind cannot be tidily described and put into a definitive box, neither can emotion, and both of these things make us what we
The best cure is for people to be themselves, that way those that yearn for comfort and completion may find it. You never know what personal hells a
person has walked through before facing you.
[edit on 24-10-2006 by Astygia]