posted on Oct, 13 2006 @ 01:56 PM
Parallelogram, my heart goes out to you. Just let yourself feel whatever comes up and talk about it if you feel OK doing so.
Being adopted and in touch with my birth family, I have now had the unique opportunity of burying two fathers, both several years ago. I still miss
them terribly, but somehow they're still with me in a way. Now we're on a death watch for my mother, who has Alzheimer's and is in a rest home.
Give yourself time to heal, you'll probably have alot of feelings come up, but that's real normal. And if you're standing in line at the grocery
store and suddenly burst into tears, well just know others have done that, too, and it's really OK.
Don't know if this would help, but you may want to try setting aside 30 min. or so each day at the same time, to write in a journal, sob
uncontrollably or whatever helps you deal with the grief. I did this and found that it helped me to contain my feelings enough to get through the day
and be strong for my family.
I will be praying for your and your family. U2U if you need to talk. I've worked as a grief counselor and would be happy to listen.