posted on Sep, 26 2006 @ 12:24 PM
If I were still in my teens, in high school, or back in University I would probably agree with you. There are times when studying and homework simply
interferes with one's life and, as it was so descriptively put, "homework sucks".
I will have to say that now, as a parent, I can view the other side of the fence with a bit more clarity and understanding -- a perspective that I
simply did not have when I was your age.
Study and homework are essential parts of the educational process. More so, it is a part of the maturation process. That is, accepting that one has
to, at times, do things that they might not like to do but do out of a sense of self actualization. You might not like to do homework or to study but
you do it out of; a sense of obligation, because you will get "in trouble" if you don't or because you know that it is in your own best interest to
do so -- not now, perhaps, but it will help in the future.
Unfortunately, the teen age years are the most difficult ones. There is a scientifically reported "shearing" of brain cells that takes place at
this time that makes many activities like study and homework more difficult. I have heard one educator say that it is actually more difficult for
teens to function intellectually than it is for, say, a ten year old. Teen behavior is more erratic and less rational than at any other time in
their lives. Sleep patterns become disrupted and often thinking processes become more chaotic.
Study and homework are, perhaps, ways of allowing the teen to maintain control over oneself, teaching and establishing patterns of self-discipline
that will remain for the rest of one's life. Of course, another aspect of these developmental years is a state of "perpetual urgency". I think
every parent will acknowledge that their teen seems to actually believe and feel that "this weekend is the most/last/best/ "good" weekend of the
year or even their lives. Time seems distorted for the teen and, of course, time management is often non-existant. But after school assignments is
one way to help develop those skills which will be used for the rest of what we can only assume will be a very long life.
I know that I sound like a stick-in -the-mud but, believe me, I'm telling you a truth that you will surely discover for yourselves in a relatively