posted on Sep, 16 2006 @ 11:48 AM
Who is at fault? Oh boy, that's a tough question. Some would say the parents, others society, still others would blame the school, or whatever
facility the rampages took place in...schools, post offices, etc...the supervisors should have noticed something. I am sure that someone else will
come up with still more reasons...
My thoughts are all of them share equally in the blame...maybe the parents a bit more than the others, for allowing something like Columbine to occur,
or the Dawson College incident.
That the shooters were victims of bullying or other societal ostracism, is probably correct, at least in the case of the Columbine shooters.
When I was a kid...I, and most other kids, at least in my experiance; were taught to stand up to a bully, as most bullies are cowards...standing up to
a bully doesn't neccessarily require going fist city, mostly it requires showing no fear. Obviously, if there are four or five of them, fear is
probably warrented. This is how I learned that respect, particularly amongst kids in your own peergroup, is earned; never granted. Running away,
even if only metaphorically, earns you nothing but contempt, even from the ones in authority...wrong of course, but there nevertheless.
I was, for a short time, a victim of bullying, from about the third grade, to midway through my fourth grade year, there were two kids who's chief
pleasure was the torment of one Seagull. They were always together, and being in the fifth grade somewhat larger than I, somewhat? God, they were
flippin' Goliath and I was Pee wee Herman. But that midway point I mentioned...growth spurt. When I realized I could look them in the eye, the fear
was gone, replaced by anger, the three of us went fist city in the hallway of that little elementary school...I lost, after all there were two of
them...Jackie Chan I ain't. What amazes me the most about that particular episode was how quickly the bullying of yours truely stopped. Yeah, I
lost the fight, but I stood up for myself...respect was earned as was self-respect.
These days it seems to me that we are asked to try to negotiate, or mediate, even ignore these sort of things. It would be nice if that were
possible, no one should have to fight a bully to earn respect from ones peers. Yeah, its a primitive social behaviour, but mankind as a whole ain't
all that far removed from our monkey/ape ancestors, who established and still establish pecking orders in just this sort of fashion...
I don't know if being bullied was the trigger for these events...it seems likely that it was at least a contributing factor, though. It should have
been stopped, by the parents going to the school...the school by noticing this going on and putting a stop to it, or letting the bullied stand up for
themselves without censure if they do stand up for themselves...
You cannot force peers to respect each other...respect is earned...one way or another. Ultimately, the Columbine shooters were after respect, and
were determined to get it...by any means neccessary. Now maybe this couldn't have been solved by a playground brawl, but then again, maybe it could
Is this a first? Someone advocating playground fights as a method of social engineering?