Interesting dilemma....

For the love of women.......

I had the good fortune of genetics making me a bruiser like my farm boy father & a razor tounge/wit gotten from my mother. I mention this because it allowed me to lie & pass for 25 when I was actually just turned 18, which got me a job as a bouncer in an upscale club on the weekends. That it was upscale meant that the women were corp & professional, 30's & 40's, but that the men were more 'sugar daddy-ish' & 40's & 50's.
That I was always the only guy in the club under 25 lead to some of the best schooling I ever received in my life, as well as adventures that spent every wild oat I had to sow.

That's the background that allows me to say......

Sex without intimacy is short changed & no where near as mind blowing as it should strive to be. Anything that has to be kept on the QT is void of the intimacy & thus not worth the effort.
The subtle advice to a friend? Pass on that as well because unless he's a robot, he'll deduce that there's some public conversations about his private life going on.