Basically, this is competition for a scarce resource (quality females).
The way you win, is you size up your competition (other males in play), and figure out what they are doing that works or doesn't work. Which is what
this thread is about, in a way.
Now, the second phase is, you study the goal (melding with females) and find ways to SET YOURSELF APART from the rest of your competitors.
As an example, I enjoy deer hunting. But I'm unable to be there for the opening day of the season. As the season progresses, the deer are more
retiring, and saturation of hunting sites occurs.
But you know what, I have still taken a buck on PUBLIC LAND, near the end of the season. How? Because I learned that 80% of bucks are shot withing
a quarter mile of a road
so, I SET MYSELF APART by moving away from the road, and got a buck within an hour and a half. . . .
Deer hunting is different than finding a mate, but the pressures are similar; your success depends in part on the behavior of the prey (human females)
as well as upon the behavior of your competitors (other eligible males).
The only way you can hope to succeed is by changing the rules of the game. Present yourself in a way that lets you stand apart from the rest of the
If I were "on the make,". . . . one of the things I notice is that young men today seldom actually ask a woman out on a date
any more. They
speak of their exploits as if they had, but it's not the case.
Asking a woman to a drinking party at your friends house is not a date.
Asking a woman to come to your house and watch you play video games is not a date.
Asking a woman you just met, to come to your apartment is not a date.
Now, asking a woman to go to a movie with you is
a date, but it is the only one other men can think of, and is the most over-used dating agenda
in the book. It's analogous to hunting deer next ot a paved road.
Worse, it hides your assets.
You want to pick an activity that retails your suitability to the mating prospect. Sitting alone with her in a dark, loud place (theater), is not the
way to get it done. Pick an activity where she can confirm that you are not
an axe murderer, and have some social skills.
I have recommended before, in these types of threads, that you invite a young lady to an event that she might have some interest in, apart from the
date itself. Public events like symphony, museums, art exhibits, botanical gardens etc. are inexpensive, and put the two of you in a setting where
you can use your conversational skills
to impress her with your suitability as a genetic donor.
The women who have no outside interests in art, music, or nature, are generally unsatisfactory coupling partners, in my experience. (Basically, if
you're looking for a companion for the solely athletic component of reproduction, you can find that in a bar, by wearing expensive clothes and
throwing some money around.)
But the females that are most enjoyable as partners have a wide variety of claimants to choose from. So it's up to you to be the ONE that stands out
from the pack. ONCE you have already done this, THEN AND ONLY THEN is it time for her to be shown that you are in fact a nice guy.
This has all been covered in my thread How to find Women (and helping them find you)
Especially my last 3 posts or so, are the KEY that can get you a real live girl, ALONE IN YOUR ROOM.
But alas, most men would rather complain, that to change their fate. But it's like my old friend Andy Dufresne, used to say:
You either get busy livin', or get busy dyin'.
all the best.
(edit for italics)
[edit on 24-8-2006 by dr_strangecraft]