posted on Jul, 21 2006 @ 12:54 PM
Originally posted by ImplementOfWar
She finally told me she slept with him but she regretted it and that he was getting too attached and that she told him beforehand that she only
"liked him" and didnt want to be his GF and that she doesnt like him anymore.
She went from barely knowing him to sleeping with him but regretting it. That should be your first clue that she may not be trustworthy.
Our very first date before we started going out she went to visit that guy. She lied to me at the time and told me it was one of her
girlfreinds she hadnt seen in awhile.
There's your second clue.
Next worrysome thing is that she told me that sex was supposed to be between a boyfreind and girlfreind. Sounds moral, but she slept with
that guy when she just "liked him" and didnt want to be his GF.
It sounds moral, but keep in mind that she has also told you she slept with the other guy, regrets it, and didn't really like him to begin with. Is
she a hypocrit? Yes.
We might be boyfreind and girlfreind now, and I really like her, but I am having doubts that she might just be using me and possibly having a
long distance relationship still with somebody she likes.
Might be? I'd say there's a good chance. If she has lied to you about going to see this same guy in the past, there's a good chance that she will
We slept together last night, our second day of being BF and GF, and only after a week of going out on dates.
She has no problem being affectionate but only if I make the moves .... she only kisses me back when I kiss her. She doesnt try to get close to me,
she only does it when I try it. She only tells me she likes me if I ask her or I tell her that I do.
Sleeping with someone you barely know is never a good idea. If she is not acting affectionately towards you unless you do so first there is one of two
things going on.
1. She really does like you and is trying to make sure she doesn't run you off by being too emotional/clingy.
2. She isn't as into you as you are into her and doesn't want you to think she's rude if she doesn't respond to your advances.
I've been on both sides of that equation, and from a girl's perspective I can tell you it's not fun. Regardless of which of the two options above
is what is actually going through her head, she probably doesn't want to upset you. My advice is to ask her, flat out, if she's sure she wants to be
in a committed BF/GF relationship. Just try not to seem accusatory and be kinda nonchalant about it so she doesn't feel like she has to answer the
way she thinks you want her to.
I try not to be "clingy" or "protective" but for some reason I always have trust issues with girls.
If you always have trust issues with girls then you're dating the wrong kind of girls. There actually are women out there who won't make you feel
like you can't trust them. You just have to look for them. I promise we exist!
Should I use her for sex and train myself mentally to not become attached?
I would try to pretend you didn't say that... But I can't.... There is never never never a good reason to just "use" someone. If you decide to
just use her, and she figures it out you are setting yourself up for a massive fight. Not to mention the fact that I'm sure she'll tell every girl
she can find that all you do is use girls for sex and you want nothing more from it than that. Then you'll have a whole new set of problems. If it's
a mutual agreement to be "friends with benefits" that's different, but to just use someone without them agreeing to it is wrong.
There. Now you have a girls perspective on the situation.