posted on Jul, 17 2006 @ 06:00 PM
Originally posted by mrsdudara
I have to disagree with you there. A lot has changed in the past oh 8 years. I have not come across someone with that point of view in years. In
fact, I have had many people, men, women, teachers, you name it. Thank me for staying home with my kids, and tell me how they wish more people would.
A lot of people watch the news now and see a bunch of kids who had to grow up on their own, with no parents around until maybe dinner time. BEFORE
anyone harps on me for that comment, lemme finish. A lot of parents single or married, get so occupied with work and what not, that when they are
home, they are off doing something else, more work, computer, phone, out with friends, what ever. No time for the kiddos...go to sleep quick....stay
out of my hair. Well, a lot of people are seeing what happens as a result, and lets just say that family time around the dinner table is making a big
Living a new way comes with making adjustments. At first it is hard core, then things lighten back and forth until a balance is found. Because of
those women, we have choices, we have respect, and we have a voice. Because of the women now, we are learning how to find balance.
[edit on 17-7-2006 by mrsdudara]
just browse through the posts on this forum, I'm sure you will find quite a few who don't see the stay at home mom as being of much worth....
if they considered the contribution that she gave to society, and to them as or any worth, you wouldn't be hearing so much screaching about how
unfair it all is now...they work hard all day to get what they have, and then one day, well, she decides to leave...or maybe he doesn, and low and
behold, now she gets half of everything he's worked so hard for....
what do they think she was doing while he was working so hard, having tea parties?
I've come from a long line of working mothers, single mothers, as well as widowed mothers, back four generations at least. both my mom and dad
worked, they had to. my grandmother had her husband split on her, she raised my father on her own, and worked outside the home. my
greatgrandmother was left with two children when her husband fell off the roof, she sewed in her home, along with her kids, to earn her keep. I
don't see where we kids were harmed in any way, my father was very well adjusted person, my grandmother was also.
there's two points I am making, working mothers are not that rare in history, they've always been around, it seems like the only women who get to
enjoy that lifestyle are those that are well off financially, although there are many that are kind of forced into that situation, because of
circumstances they have little power to control. And, it isn't as enjoyable if you have hungry kids, or sick uninsured kids and the power to do
anything about it has been stripped from you. and two, it has less of an impact on the child's wellbeing than some would have us to believe.