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Originally posted by duckiciao
Well, although the law says that you dont have any power, yes you do!.
I am 16 and still live at home, and if mum or step dad says i aint going out, that is the end of the argument. Sure, i go all mardy and snappy, but that is the rule. It is your house helen670, and whilst your daughter lives there, she does so under your rules. If she doesnt like those rules, kick her out. Trust me, within a week (or a month if she is a bit proud), she will be clamouring to come home. If this situation arises again, kick her out again (obviously warn her), but this time say that you wont accept her back. She wont like it, but hey, thats life...
Btw, I was kicked out, and I never ever want that to happen again...
Originally posted by snowflake_obsidian
What was her reaction to her friend getting hurt anyways? Did it effect her at all?
Originally posted by WolfofWar
Also helen, theres curfew laws for anybody under the age of 18 in the United States. If its a weekday, they cannot be out in the streets past 11pm, and on weeknights past 12am.
And whatever cop you were talking to doesn't know the law very well. Your kid is your responsibility, and can be held liable for her actions, even while she's unsupervised.
For example, if she hada hit and run with your car, while drunk, you'd be liable, and arrested, not her.
Originally posted by helen670
Do i have a say?, not according to the 'stupid law', I dont!
) that went to this 'hotel' was in hospital for jumping off the balcony, drunk and all......the latest, she is on life support, with spinal injuries and head injuries....all for a stupid, drunken, so called FUN NIGHT OUT!!!
After the fact, one cannot do anything but blame society for all the B.S that is out there and allowed to continue.
the Law allows 16 year olds to leave home.
but the system does nothing to combat the problems we are faced with today.....
It is very limited to what one can do, especially if the Law works against you.
they all seem to know the law,especially when it suits them!
When she turned 16, she said that all her friends were allowed to watch what they wanted and go on their own to parties and what have you....I didn't and don't care what others thought was the right or wrong thing to do.....I did what i saw fit for her best interest.
Punishment for small mistakes is pretty stupid and in fact leaves a memorable scar in place.
So is to control achild by using force or severe punishment.
The young girl that had the accident is in critical condition.....she is on life support at the moment
A few days ago another of her friends got killed....she was in the car with her brother and some friends, and the driver lost control and hit a tree ,right in front of her house.....something like this probably could not have been avoided, as it was her time to go.
WolfofWar
Also helen, theres curfew laws for anybody under the age of 18 in the United States. If its a weekday, they cannot be out in the streets past 11pm, and on weeknights past 12am.
I spoke to a cop and I can be arrested for holding her 'hostage' in my home!
At the moment she wants to go with a friend to Sydney(to get away from bad friends,so she says.
Originally posted by Marto_Bagg
but when you check her freinds bags its across teh line ...in a teenagers eyes anyways
Also, you said you never let your teen out while she was 13,14,15 etc.. ,now is it just me of is that just a little over protective , by the age of 14 i think teens can handle themsefls
You also said youve checked out your teens parents , big no no , i can see were your coming from making sure your daughter is in safe hands at her freinds house etc... , but in a teens eyes that is way past the line
Originally posted by Nygdan
Any parent is going to want to know who their kids are hanging out with, indeed, they should know that. I understand that you are trying to show what isn't cool from a kid's perspective, but, surely, you can see that those evaluations aren't sensible no?
I presume that the school year is over in australia?
Originally posted by helen670
Apparently if a child under 17(checked the 'legal aid' laws) does not want to live at home for various reasons, then they don't have to.This cannot be forced on them, whether it be a parent or guardian,
Originally posted by elevatedone
Helen,
First of all, many prayers for you and your daughter, as well as the other girls, especially the one that was injured.
My thought is...
You found the alcohol before they left your house right?
You didn't take it away from them and didn't call the other girls parents to inform them of the plans, right?
You didn't stop the girls from going out of your home with the alcohol?
I wonder if anyone, the girls parents or law enforcement will be coming after you, placing the blame on you for the girls drinking and getting injured?
Just a thought.
I wish you the best.