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Originally posted by 25cents
teenagers are stupid. get used to it. you're a parent.
Originally posted by 25cents
i'm totally sorry. i totally made the assumption that when you were a teen, you never did anything your parents would disapprove of, and you never had a single rebellious reaction to their rules.
once again, you're a parent. if you want control over your child, take it. if you're going to be held legally responsible for actions you know will get them in trouble, it's your legal duty to prevent that situation from happening - call the cops on her if she keeps it up.
Originally posted by MCory1
Glad to hear it worked out that it wasn't your daughter playing Peter Pan that night. Kind of strange how an argument can turn into a (potential) life saver sometimes.
Just my $0.02. Really curious about the law stuff though; I'd like more details on that if you could.
I don't know if this is comforting or not--if your daughter is the one playing the "law" card on you, then it might serve as a fair argument-
Originally posted by S1LV3R4D0
Wow that law stuff down there sux. Heres what my grandma said one day. Kids, all you can do is raise them the best you can, love them and support them with all your heart, and hope they turn out for the best. Just never abandon them.
if a parent cannot accept how a child acts, then it is their responsibility to resolve the issue. if the damage is too extensive due to poor parenting as a child, then once again, it is still the parents responsibility.
Originally posted by S1LV3R4D0
If you punish for every little mistake made in life, thats not learning from them, thats controlling and your in for a world of heartache.
Punishment for small mistakes is pretty stupid and in fact leaves a memorable scar in place.
Originally posted by S1LV3R4D0
Now you are changing your words. Your first post was teenagers are stupid and that is what i was commenting on. Then you stated they make stupid mistakes. Yes EVERYONE of all ages makes stupid mistakes, not just teenagers. And referring to children as ITS(inanimate objects) really makes me wonder. I raised my nephew while my sister was in prison. But not until i had my own did i understand the true meaning of parenting.
You stated you helped raise five. Was it your fulltime lifetime job?
Its how people react to dumb mistakes that helps steer them in the directions that they take in life.
Ever hear the addage it takes 10 attaboys to cancel out one awww Sh*t?
If you punish for every little mistake made in life, thats not learning from them, thats controlling and your in for a world of heartache.
Originally posted by S1LV3R4D0
Its ok Helen, no need to go into detail. ive seen all to well the results of lousy dads and it hurts the kids tremendously and in many ways. Enough said about him. and your beliefs about what a father should be to a family are admirable, and sadly enuff, hard to find nowadays.
Originally posted by ixiy
Maybe you should introduce your daughter to some teenagers who are the more responisble type, hanging out with the irresponsible, often drunk, violent or drug using type of teenager crowds often leads them astray and into more trouble.
Teenagers at this age normally do not like to listen to their parents, but like to hang out with people their own age, they want to have fun and experiance more freedom for themselves. They can still do so if they hang out with the right crowd, drink responisbly, look out for each other, avoid drugs and other violent people.
You may feel more secure when you know that she is hanging out with a bunch of decent more responsible friends instead of a bad type who might lead her astray.
You may have no control over her choice of friends but you can share with her your worries and feelings on her choice of friends. Get to know her friends well may help you understand or influence her friends as well. Become your daughters and the groups "good friend" and use a little psychology to influence their behaviour....s'n-word'... (psychological warfare).
Good friends are friends who make you a want to be better more responsible person, bad ones make get you into trouble and make you worse.
This is just my opinon, I may be wrong....