posted on Jul, 6 2006 @ 10:52 PM
Originally posted by Enkidu
In case you haven't noticed, you can find an underlying instinctual motivation for about 99 percent of what people do, and most of that has to do
with gaining status (wealth, in the case of humans) within a group to increase one's chances at successful reproduction.
Prove me wrong.
Well, I have no link to provide, no magazine article from some scientific society.. All I have is my own experience.
And from my experience, you're wrong.
The man I'm with is not wealthy, in fact he's in so much debt it's not even funny. Fact is, I'm with him because I find happiness in his
companionship. If we ever have kids, great; while my inner primate may be excited over his pheremones and genes, I didn't look at him and go "ooo..
eyes the same level, walks straight, all limbs are fully functional, Houston -- We're good to go!"... If we don't have kids, great; I'm perfectly
happy with that.. simply because I am happy with him, in walking my path with him by my side. (And when our paths diverge, it won't be because his
status fell.. or rose. It'll be because his path is moving him someplace different than mine.)
If status is all it's about, then I woulda been married about 4 years ago to a man with money who I liked as a friend, but didn't love and wouldn't
touch (that way) with a ten foot pole.... what's the friggin' point in that??? Ooo.. I can go shopping and live in a big house! so what. Material
wealth does not bring me happiness, and that, in my humble opinion, is what is truly important.
In short -- I disagree.
Besides that, what about those who get into relationships and do not want to have children? (be they straight or gay)
Back to the topic, the only dates I've ever been on were with people I was already with. Before dates, I hang out with them.. I've got to be
comfortable with the person before I decide to put on a dress...
I have to know if I can trust someone before I reveal my inner onion..
[edit on 6-7-2006 by Diseria]