How Many Dates Before I Kiss Her?

I am going to ask this girl out. Remind you we are both teenagers and she is a christian. I was wondering when i should kiss her? 3rd date? 4th date? Your suggestions please?

You could ask her permission when you think the time is right.

She hasn't said yes yet! Dont get too far ahead of yourself mate!

If everything goes great on the first date, and you don't kiss on her on the second it would seem awkward I believe. Depending on the girl, but most times this would seem fitting.

It will all depend on how the first date goes, and how well you know the girl.
I see nothing wrong with a quick kiss goodnight if the first date has gone really well for both of you.

You have to judge for yourself based on your knowledge of her moral values.
She may treasure that kiss forever.

Just don't force it, and see what happens.
And for God sake, keep your tongue inside your mouth unless she starts first......


Good Luck





[edit on 14/6/2006 by anxietydisorder]

lol Thanks everyone, I really appreciate everyone posting and will take each one into consideration.

If you paid for it, you deserve it!
By that I mean if you paid for the date...food, movies, drinks, etc

Nice attitude Gear....

If you pay for a whore you get some for sure, but if you treat a nice young lady to an evening out with dinner and a movie she owes you nothing more than the pleasure of her company.

hear hear to the thread above me ....

think it is something you should wait for her to instigate.

Let her kiss you and if it doesnt happen on the first date then you will have to wait.

what's with all these threads asking when to do this, how to do that?

you are out with a girl and the mood feels right, you kiss. You either tell her you would like to kiss her, which is basically asking if it is ok or you just guage the moment and, if you see she wants to kiss you, you make your move.

you don't plan it, you don't work out a time or a place, you just do it. anything planned feels planned and the moment is tainted.

that first kiss is important in a relationship. don't blow it by overthinking it.

The question should read.. 'How many drinks before i kiss her'

3 Mikes Hard lemonade's and youre IN !!

he said kiss you pervert

yeah that was referring to the kiss, then u make her drink 3 more, tell her you love her as well as jesus christ, and then youre ALL the way in.

We are talking about teenagers going out on a first date, it's not a race to see how much action you can get. It's about sambo5us wanting to build a relationship with a girl he's interested in.

Show her you're interested in her and treat her with respect.
Everything else will fall into place as you get to know each other.

A little advice for you,
Gaining the trust and approval of her parents will make the journey less stressful for both of you.
Keep your destination in mind, but enjoy the voyage when you sail in uncharted waters.

I agree 100% with Country Soul,


sambo5us you have already gained my respect for even worrying about this, IT means you do care and you do want to treat her right,

Just be honest, have fun, and just enjoy being together and getting to know more about each other, forget the kissing it will happen when it happens..

Is it my daughter? If so, you can kiss her on your first wedding anniversary. If I'm dead.

Otherwise, here's what I might suggest (WARNING!! Following my suggestions have been proven to lead to negative repercussions. Proceed at your own risk.):

You're a little shy. She probably is, too, The longer you wait, the more awkward it's going to be. Try this (or not)- after you pick her up, say something like, "You know, first kisses can be very awkward. And I'm going to be thinking about kissing you all evening, unless we can just get it out of the way. What do you think?" Then give her a friendly peck. Don't go overboard, just give her a little kiss. It's worked for me, although that was about a million years ago.

Good luck.

I've tried that technique too, only I said I would think about having sex with her instead of kissing her.

It worked a bit too well.

married 6 years this month (with 2 kids).

Well it depends on culture, age and background of the two involved.
However there is a test that you can perform to see if she is ready.
It's very easy and harmless for both...
Touch her hair, caressing it very gently. Watch her reaction about it. If you are on the right track, she will let you and smile (watch for the signs such as open arms etc.) Stop and wait a bit and then do it again if she lets you do it, she is ready to be kissed. Remember don't ask her just do it. You can do it slowly and be very tender, but don't ask.

Asking is the equivalent of a soccer red card. You do that and you are out of the game.

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www.askmen.com...

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[edit on 18-6-2006 by carcharodon]

here's some advice my father gave me when i was a wee lad -

"a little roofie goes a long way, son"




hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha, i kill me sometimes. but anyway, this is always something you gotta figure out for yourself. the last girl i dated, i waited more than 4 dates, and even then she turned her head to the side. we ended up dating for 7 months and getting 'engaged'. she's gone off the deep end lately, but nevermind that.

a woman expects you to make some mistakes. they're pretty forgiving creatures, for the most part. just don't go overboard, take your time, and for gods sake, make sure that the mood is always one of comfort. mellow is the name of the game. self-effecing humor can do wonders if you're a bit on the wild side. and if she's christian but not too chrisitan, you want to HINT that you've got a little bit of a wild side to you - their family is straight laced, so they're looking to cut loose a little.

jesus. i should write a dating column.

As The Old Cliche Goes...

...follow your heart.

You'll know.