posted on Jun, 3 2006 @ 05:48 PM
Originally posted by The_Time_is_now
do you think if I sent her a myspace message, telling her how I feel, that she would say yes? Or should I just wait.
The biggest turn on for a girl (and I know... I am one) is self confidence. That's why they like the football players and other popular kids, even if
they're not that great-looking. It's because they're confident. Having your friend ask her out told her The_Time_is_now has no self-confidence.
be why she said no.
Have you spent any time with her at school or just gazing longingly at each other? If not, you have some work ahead of you. Start talking to her. Ask
her how she did on a test. What she thinks of someone else. Think of little things to talk to her about, if only for 30 seconds at a time. Smile at
her. Use her name. Tell her she looks nice. Get a few phrases in your head ahead of time and be as relaxed as possible when you talk to her. Approach
her. If she brushes you of or runs in the other direction, you'll know she would probably say no if you did ask her out so don't bother.
On the other hand, if she smiles and seems a little nervous, but appears to like talking to you, give it a go. Girls like to have a little bit of a
'friendship' going on before they get asked out. Be her friend, be yourself and never again send a friend to do your job.
Being shy, although a natural trait for many guys your age, can be your worst enemy. Don't let it keep you from getting things you want. Just push it
aside and don't let it control you. You're in charge, not your shyness.
The worst that can happen is she says no. And be prepared for that. If she says no, then tell her "Aw. Too bad... I'm disappointed. Well, if you
change your mind let me know." and that will be one experience for you. Guys have it hard in that they're the ones who are expected to do the
I got tired of a guy not asking me out once so I finally got up the nerve to ask him out. We've been married for 15 years...
Let us know how it goes...