If you are sacrificing someone else, isn't it a matter of control? The sacrificee if truly willing to sacrifice themselves for the higher good, would
not require another to sacrifice them, as they would be all willing to do it themselves. I would think the energies derived from a completely full
offering from one who completely wills it would be a stronger offering, than one which required another to "take it" as in ritualistic sacrifice.
To take energy from another negates the offering itself doesn't it?
Now aside from blood letting and that crapola...self sacrifice as a single parent is something I know well...my daughter is a Buddhist as well and she
has made personal sacrifice. We all do it in some small way everyday if you want to get really fluffy about it.
When you stop to allow that pedestrian to cross, even though your're late for work. When you rush to hold open that heavy door for an elderly woman,
or a lady with a stroller. When you buy the bum on the corner a sandwich. When you give a big smile to the poor girl at the coffee counter who's just
started and is more than a little frazzled.
I mean these are normal daily occurances that for most part go un noticed by many. We don't consider the effects, becuase they seem such small
gestures.
I firmly believe that in sacrificing oneself, all one has to do is daily remember that we are all connected. One nice gesture benefits so many. Think
about that.
You hold open a door for an elderly woman. Numerous people see you do this, see you smile, and hear her thank you. They carry that moment with them
and pass it along to the first person they meet (often without even fully realizing it). The old lady goes on to perhaps tell the bus driver of your
kindness. Again more people are affected, as the bus is busy. So just that one act - passes oh say at least 50 people.
50 people that are potentially positively affected. Small sacrifice
Add them up over days, months, years...no small sacrifice. It's a ton of positive energy flowing.
Of course there are bigger sacrifices. I'd lay down my life for my daughter, I'd kill for my daughter if it was the only way. I give up gladly my
own wants, so that her NEEDS are always met (and more than a few wants too).
It's not a martyrdom either. No praise required. It's done because that's how it should be. That's how it works best for us.
Keep smiling and being considerate of others and to others, that to me is the greatest gift of self.