Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
There are women who would rather maintain the status quo for the benefits and protections that women receive in a patriarchy. These women, although
sharing a gender with feminists, move counter to the feminist movement and are therefore sexist against women.
Men aren't the only creatures who can be sexist against women.
Do people agree or disagree with this statement?
I can only speak about what I've seen women doing in the city where I live, and myself.
Whether it be from a lack of education, or a lack of will to rebel or make a formal change, the women around here all have children because having
children equals having you, and your family, taken care of by the state (of Mass.). While I do not agree with their choice, I do see a certain level
of validity in choosing this route -- there are no decent jobs here, very few people have money (in fact those that do have money, moved here.. did
not get their wealth here, but rather vacate here to see the leaves change), and it is, on the whole, much easier to live on welfare than to try to
make it on their own. Minimum wage doesn't even pay the rent anymore! Besides that, most of them became pregant before they graduated high school!
Now, is this the most correct choice they could have made? Certainly not. Were they ever informed of their choices? Don't know. I've talked with
plenty of them, and while they'd love to go to school, to move, to change their lives.. they simply can't because they have children and put their
children before themselves. "I'll go to school/move when the kids are older."
Most know about birthcontrol pills, but most can't afford it. Condoms are almost $6 for 3... and when you're broke.. well.. Again, it comes down to
choice and willpower, turning your cheek to the current trends and social pressures.. not everyone can, nor will, or be able to maintain such a
stance. (Especially when their mothers were pregnant as teens, and so they were raised by and around young mothers, thus it's not so far fetched for
them to be young mothers...)
Do they necessarily counter the feminist movement? Or, do they (collectively) feed so heavily off of the system to cause it to, eventually, break
Personally, I say that they do neither because they are not consciously making a choice to push for patriarchy, or suckle the teet til it's dry..
They're doing their own thing.
To say that a woman who'd rather feed off the system than partake in feminism is anti-woman seems extreme.. however, I do see your point. It's
easier to live within the system than to fight it.. and the system favors competition and business ethics, which seem inherently contradictory to the
'female mindset' (love & compassion).. not to say that every female is this way, but I'd wager that it's the mother instinct.
Besides that, what's the best way to fight? Aggressive gets batted down, and passive seems so subtle that no one gets the point. (The latter is,
however, my preferred method. Passively in your face..
) The fact that I shaved my head has amazed so many people.. their reactions amazed me!
Many people call me 'Sir' because of it. Not maliciously, but they honestly can not tell that I am a female. And to be honest -- I am not offended
In my mind, it doesn't matter whether I, or anyone else for that matter, is a female or a male.. so long as they are respectful to me, and I to them.
That, above all else, should be the important part.. Respect.
*That* is the equality that I seek..
But in a society run on business ethics (while touting moral/practical ethics) -- what, exactly, can we expect beyond what we already have?