posted on Jul, 4 2006 @ 11:07 AM
Of course, it's the 4th of July, and Frau Dr. is back from her conference, and we didn't even get out of bed until 9:30 (even though we were
awake at 8 . . .)
The kids are watching a Tom and Jerry marathon out in the game-room, and we're hosting a party tonight. . . .
Yes, love is worth the cost.
But you have to understand, Frau Dr. would tell you, that although we love each other dearly, we take responsibility for OUR OWN happiness. If she is
in a bad mood, that ultimately, it's not my fault---only she can decide to make herself happy. The partner doesn't have the power to "fix" you,
and is not responsible for making your life perfect.
My love is a choice
I choose to love her. If she went crazy or hurt me or the kids, I would withdraw that love in a heartbeat. And I know she is the same.
Love is not helplessness; it's a mutual respect and closeness born out of reverence for the other person, not out of my own selfish demands.
It is a skill.
Most people in this world don't know how to love. They cannot show or give love, and don't know how to respond in a healthy way when you try to
love them. Most of them want to BE LOVED, without giving of themselves in return.