History: we once worked together, he was in a 12 yr relationship that was soured and after he moved out we began dating. We'd been friends for over a
year prior to dating and nothing was going on at all.
')ce. Needless to say he had issues just coming out of his relationship, so being practical and level headed I sent him back
to her to at least TRY to repair the relationship (after all we WERE friends and his happiness was really more important to me than just getting
Five years go by, we keep contact but the friendship had to take a back seat so he could focus on his relationship.
She ended it with him, he moved out, they sold thier house, he bought his own place yadda yadda... we've been dating again.
Started out as friends with benefits, but really I get tired of the push and pull aspect of this and told him to just let "it" happen if "it's"
So, here we are a year later now, I haven't got a clue what the hell he's doing. He says he enjoys my company, enjoys the sex, finds me beautiful
and attractive, loves talking to me and hanging out...yet he still does the push and pull crap.
Sometimes I get the impression he could care less, other times it's as if he WANTS me to be more emotionally expressive and more romanticly
inclined...problem is, when I do..he freaks out and pushes away again.
Now I'm relatively cool emotionally. Not terribly showy and definitely not clingy...and I'm getting really irritated by this.
Personally I think he's only keeping the bait dangling until he finds someone else who gives him the equivalent "rush".
BTW I have stopped "putting out" until he figures out what the hell he wants...does he want the full meal deal or just a snack - you know?
I'll always be his friend and visa versa, but I dunno about this relationship stuff.
shoot me now.