Something happened to me this evening that I thought might be of some small relevance to this thread. I realized that we have been concentrating on
just one area of life, when there are so many other areas to examine. Forgive the length, please, I really do get around to a point somewhere near
I live in an older apartment building, which means it is wood and not as quiet as a concrete building. I have an ongoing problem with the person who
lives in the apartment above me about my love of rap music. And it's not like it's really loud or late at night. I'm talking 6PM on a Friday
I was polite the first few times he came down and knocked on my door, and tried to be obliging. The first time it happened, I turned off my
sub-woofer which takes the system from 400 watts to 200. It cuts out most of the bass.
The second time, I turned it down from 13 to 10. The
third time, I took it down to 8. The fourth time, I expressed my annoyance to him, but I still turned it down to 6. The fifth time, I told him it
wasn't loud at all and closed the door. After that, he took to banging on the floor with a hammer, which caused me to turn up the volume so I could
drown him out.
The management of the building told him to stop harrassing me because you aren't supposed to go knocking on people doors, you're supposed to call
them and they decided if rules are being broken. They investigated his complaint and came to the decision that he is an idiot. He was advised that
if he bothered me again, he would be evicted.
Tonight, I had the stereo on at a reasonable level and was stupid enough not to check the peephole before I opened the door. He told me, not asked,
to turn my stereo down. I said no and when I went to close the door, he pushed it back in and started yelling at me. I kept trying to close the door
and he kept pushing back on it. Finally, I pulled back on it and then managed to slam it quickly before he could push on it again. I don't have the
physical strength to do a darn thing about it if he had chosen to push his way in.
I'm not trying to say that he's a jerk to me because I'm female. What I'm trying to get across is that I would have really liked to have had that
greater physical strength to shut the door and feel less threatened by him. It's an enormous asset for a man if he doesn't allow users to take
advantage of it.
If I were a man, I would have told him off good.