posted on Mar, 24 2006 @ 10:51 AM
YOU CAN DO BETTER!!
OK, I am not about to judge this woman, but I am judging your situation and the fact you have put up with the stresses of this relationship and her
behaviour would lead me to give you the benefit of the doubt that you can do MUCH better. I am NOT saying better than her as a person, but have a
BETTER relationship and be in a better SITUATIOn than the one you are in with this woman.
My sister is bi-polar and has been married 3 times now. Twice to the same man even. She has been suicidal, (nearly successful on her last attempt) has
had electro-convulsive therapy, on all sorts of medications, and reactions to meds etc. She has been known to be self-abusing to degrees I will not
even mention here...and certainly went through her phase of sexually acting out with young colledge boys in her town.
However she is functioning well NOW in a wonderful marriage to a great and understanding guy now in her late 40's and on the proper doses of
I love her. She's great. She is artistic and intelligent and caring-when not overly self centered and a real riot if manic...
But I would not advise anyone I know to be in a relationship with her. The man she has found-is a saint....and loves her like there is no tomorrow...
and I thank God for him.
However he had been married to an obeesely overweight frigid and emotionally abusive woman for most his adult life and had two sons with her. Now his
kids are grown and my sister's (who she lost custody of due to her illness and suicide attempts) are pretty much grown too.
So you have to ask yourself, not if you love this woman, but can you live with her and her illness? Forever? Especially if it doesn't get better, or
Very few men are noble, and selfless enough to do it out of love, a few may out of codependant low self esteem issues, and most loved the women before
their illness or diagnosis and stood by them, and even fewer are the few like my brother in law, strong enough to embrace the situation willingly from
...but he already has his college education behind him, already has an established career and provides well for them, including medical insurance
which she needs as her attempts to work end in being too stressful usually, and already raised his kids.
What do you want out of life? Can you see having it all with this woman? If not, then you need to cut bait NOW-let her go. You will BOTH be better
[edit on 24-3-2006 by think2much]