posted on Mar, 13 2006 @ 01:20 AM
You are not a moron now quit thinking like one!
Seriously, LISTEN TO ME-I have some good experience/advice in this area I think...see timing is everything-you can kick Destiny (but not in the nuts,
she has none) but her buddy Fate will come back to defend her sooner or later everytime and he rocks-usually.
I'm just saying what is meant to be will be, so take some PROACTIVE steps.
First, know this: In 2 years she may have pined over you, and her "crush" may have increased...so though she will NEVER work up the courage to pick
up on you...she may still be very attracted to you.
YOU need to start SLOWLY though. This means if guys are chasing her you don't want to be one, and seen as just another guy, not to mention the one
who turned her down...you have a HUGE advantage over the other guys-she LIKED you at one time and may still.
MY ADVICE is to PLAY IT COOL...I don't know if you have classes with her, only see her in the halls, or talk to her regularly, but start wtih eye
contact from a shor distance or across the room/hall-do not break it when you achieve it-instead of looking away when you get nervous-wink and smile
at her...this should get her to respond with a smile, blush or looking away-NOTE-looking away doesn't mean NOT interested-it means you win that
The wink/smile also implies you have confidence, and are self assured, and feel you have something to offer her, but nothing to prove to her.
EXCEPTION: in no circumstance should you stare her down like a psychopath! Eye contact...when eyes lock, wink...pause, smile...if she doesn't smile
back or look away go ahead and avert your eyes momentarily and then back to see if she is still looking. :-)
ANyway, do this for a couple of weeks and it builds a foundation that will get her juices going faster than some guy chatting her up at every
opportunity or asking her out for every weekend. You don't seem desperate when you just seduce her slowly....and it will intrigue her...make you
stand out...and remember...she was once hot for you.
After the first few days of this eye contact wink/smile you can incorporate more non-verbal cues...do a double take when you see her as if it was an
unconscious thing you meant for her not to notice...this lets her know you are attracted, interested and she has your attention, while acting as if
you are trying to control it...she may start to feel the need to persue how far she can take it an affect you.
so then she is trying to cath your eye, trying to get you to do double takes etc...she is wondering why you aren't chasing her like other guys...you
become the challenge...she wont ask you out...but to think she is affecting you...may make her WANT to affect you more and more...
so give in...bump her lightly with your arm in the hall and give her a half-hearted "oh excuse me..." and then give her that "we have a private
secret going on" look, wink, smile and walk on or look away dismissing the moment...let her some to you so to speak and THEN make your move...by the
time this slow seduction has taken place over a few weeks and you see it progressing, and her responding, your confidence will improve, plus she will
be ripe and ready to say yes when you finally say "Hey, you are killn me lately, when are you going to ask me out again-if I'd have known it would
have take you two years I'd have NEVER said no..." wink again
when she says she's not going to ask you out aagain or you missed your chance etc...then you say "Well, I was an idiot and I think I need to take
you out and make it up to you properly...like Friday night...sound good? let me make it up to you...*wink*
Trust me the ball is in your court it's all good-if it's meant to be it will be-play it cool, laid back-interested, but not desperate...be different
from the other guys and remember you are because she once asked YOU out.
Good luck and remember if all else fails it's great practive-chicks really dig that action and if it doesn't reel her in it will reel in another and
practive makes perfect.
[edit on 13-3-2006 by think2much]
[edit on 13-3-2006 by think2much]