A question to find what makes me so unattractive, that is if most girls aren't shallow

A decent girl or woman does not care what music you listen to. She understands that you are entitled to like whatever you want even if she doesn't like it.

A girl or woman who judges you based on what you like or don't like instead of who you are isn't worth your time.

Hey, what the wife said. What you listen too isn't important. It's who you are that matters.

Your self esteem probably isn't helping your case.

It doesn't matter what kind've music you listen to, or how you dress, any of things are important in some ways, but won't kill your chances of finding the right girlfriend.


Your personality is what will get you a girl, the little things help, if you are into one type of music and she isn't, its probably not a good idea to talk about it all night.
Same with any intrests you have, if she inquires let her carry the conversion with questions, if she asks you 1 question and you gone on for two hours about something shes not interested in shes going to want to kill herself near the end of your conversation.

btw. Girls love sincerity, they dont like fake people (most people for that matter, they hate being lied to) speak from the heart, but dont let everything out at once, remember ...smart conversation
Another good tip is talk to people, not at people. Be confident in what you do and what you are planning to say,
If you are holding things back about yourself, it shouldnt be out of fear that the girl wont like it, it should be motivated by smart conversation, and wanting to talk about things at the right time.

Saying things at the right time is a huge thing for girls. If you tell a girl you love her while your drunk, after you've done something stupid, it doesnt mean anything to them, But if you make a romantic night and tell her at a good time she will remember forever.

And please dont make the mistake of telling a girl you love her after a week of knowing her, if you do this, than take some time off, get some self respect and try again.

[edit on 24-3-2006 by shaimaison]