Originally posted by DaFunk13
I have a friend who is gay, and I work with a couple others, and not all of them are "flaming."
I just don't think that being gay automatically certifies someone to understand and judge the mindset of every gay person. I am a woman and I DO not
know what makes some women bitches and others submissive and others flaming feminists and others hos.
Just because I am a woman does not mean that all women who act differently than me (even in the extreme) are faking. See what I mean? With all due
respect to your unflaming gay friends, they don't have the handbook on how gay people behave, any more than I have the handbook on heterosexuality or
(kinda reminds me of my favorite new mod...)
He said he views being "flaming" as an act of either protest, or cry for attention, or a combination of the two.
Very possible. But my point is that EVERYONE does something to get noticed or to be true to themselves. Nose rings, make-up, droopy drawers, dialects,
and yes, some of these things scare people and would cause them to lose out on a job or turn someone off.
My point is that it's not for me to say what a person should compromise in looking for acceptance in this world. There are things I won't
compromise. If someone told me I had to wear a dress and make-up for a certain job, I would be pissed and I would consider it discrimination. And I
would be in the position that you say these flamers are - in that I want people to accept me for who I am. Yes, I choose not to wear dresses or
make-up. It's who I am.
I think we all have traits we wouldn't compromise.
I can only trust his expertise on the subject because he is much more qualified to make those statements than I.
I don't buy that. Thinking that being gay makes him an expert on gayness is a fallacy.
I have a hard time explaining this without sounding like a Nazi...I know.
You don't sound like a Nazi to me.
It sounds to me like you haven't applied this concept to everyone (as I think it should be).
Sure, people (ANY people) who act outside some stupid 'norm' and who are extravagant, eccentric, boisterous, over-the-top, and then cry about not
being accepted by everyone are asking for a lot. It's just that this is not limited to gay flamers. That's really my point.
Plus, I don't think it's my place to judge what behavior is natural or normal for anyone else.
Quest for knowledge and all that jazz...
That's what it's all about.