posted on Feb, 12 2006 @ 12:36 AM
Originally posted by urbanoyster01
Now that I think about I dont think its the sex or whatever that i want, i think i just want to understand why she wold feel "dirty."
Yeah that as the point I was going to bring up! First, what are your real issues...her being a prude...too straight... or disgusted/embarrassed by
sex...or just not giving you what you want... or the fact she feels dirty just making out?
Someone said how would you feel etc...but that is bull! Because NOTHING about sex is dirty. Not a damn thing as long as it is consensual...and
certainly not basic intercourse! (EDITED!) but if she is saving herself for marriage-then so be it-You MUST respect that...if not YOU have no business
with her...it's not so much cut the prude loose...but LEAVE the poor prude ALONE and you need to take your little self down to the redlight district
behind the bleachers and get some
However if you care about her, and respect her and want to have a relationship that might evolve into a sexual one in due course of time (maturing she
may decide marriage isn't the prerequisite, or you may decide you'd like to throw your life away and marry young ) then you do need to open up the
lines of communication...tell her OK...we do't have to have sex...it's not as important to me as you are..but can we TALK about sex?
Find out if her morals are religious related, if they have been pounded into her by her parents, and in either case, has she been taught it is
something bad or wrong or dirty etc...
Then discuss her personal habits IYKWIM
and if she is equally as hung up about them etc...discuss yours...is she hung up about that too? IS she a prude about alking about sex? Etc...
Be understanding, take it slow...TALK!!!
communication, you might do well to learn, is KEY in every freakin aspect of your life my friend, MASTER it especially with the opposite sex and
you'll do better than most who don't. Open up the lines of cummunication...understand her... and one day you might find more than the lines of
If not...you can still help her over come some pre-conceived inhibitionary thinking...and have some really interesting conversations
(edited so I don't get in trouble!)
[edit on 12-2-2006 by think2much]