Originally posted by Umbrax
Originally posted by Dr Love
Sexy is all in the eye of the beholder.
I think that is the main thing. What is sexy is only a person's opinion. (snip)
I think the best thing a person can do to be sexy is just to be honest and be their self. Trying to do something sexy because someone told you to will
likely come off as phony and have the opposite effect.
Yeah, I couldn't agree more with Dr Love and Umbrax here. What is sexy to one person may not be to another
... and faking anything is a turn off for both sexes.
but not just being an ambiguous question, I am assuming xeroxed88 is looking for specifics, so I'll add mine since they are along these lines while
trying to keep it clean enough for the boards.
If we are speaking strictly about sexual turn ons, my true turn on is honest straightforward attraction to me/lust for me. If you are not just hot for
anything and everyone, but are hot for me...you've got my attention....and if you are hot in general, my attention is growing...and if you are
literally turned on by me...if you are not just attracted but actually turned on by me...well, thats a turn on in itself, is it not?
No games...well, no head games...some games can be fun
But basically, no other agendas or ulterior motives I'm saying. Comfort in their own
sexuality and a willingness to communicate their desires
I'm not saying one-night stand with someone you don't know with no further obligations, just because opportunity knocks, so don't read that into
This base sexuality is sexy with someone with whom you are already intellectually stimulated by/emotionally intimate with as well.
You can be with someone in a long term relationship and enjoy (for lack of other words that may seem pornagraphic) knowing that you are both enjoying
each other physically/sexually and that they want you, need you, are turned on by you, and that you satisfy them-throughly good-and that they can't
get enough of you and what you can do for them.
So really, this plays out better in a relationship, where you know you play an important role in the mutual satisfaction and they show they can't get
enough of you, this shows that base sexuality I spoke of...that simply they are hot for you and can perpetuate an ideally satisfactory sex life.
Honesty in this area is good. If someone is truly in touch with their own sexual needs and knows their own likes and dislikes and is open and honest
in pursuing meeting those needs in mutually gratifying ways-then voila! bring it on!