theBLESSINGofVISION ... first let me say I love the name and I feel it does U even MORE justice after reading this post
Secondly, U are not alone in feeling this! I do and I am made to feel like I'M the deluded one! When I certainly do not feel I am, I feel I am being
alot more realistic than most who are popping babies out for a government check or their own selfish requirements.
And one of those being exactly what U said, simply because they WANT one, forgetting to consider exactly what they are bringing this soul into.
I think it is vital to really think through taking this step and alot of people don't do it, they just do it because they feel they should.
Granted, it is what we are meant to do, and most do a great job but I am seeing a downhill slide in the standard of how children are raised today.
I personally think every birth should be monitored and parents-to-be take some form of test (to at least show they are sane and normal lol).
Think about it before U think I am being melodramatic ... U need a licence to own a dog but anybody can pop a baby out, and nobody see's anything
wrong with this picture ?! And then U read about the sick things some (and in alarming numbers) people are doing to their kids or just look at the
attitude kids today have, towards their parents (no respect) drugs (who isn't doing em these days?) sex (apparently being a whore is cute and STD's
are fun!) jobs (who needs to work when my parents will support me/I can deal crack/I can bum off other people or welfare?) etc etc ...
I also see alot of neglect from parents regarding educating and street smart'ing their kids, vital stuff to kids growing up.
The future just looks very grim in my eyes and I don't think I could voluntarily bring another life into the world as it is today and where it looks
like it's heading in the future ... down the toilet basically.
At this stage I am still not convinced I will bear any and that is really sad because I would love to be a momma and think I'd make a great one
but I feel I'd be doing the right thing in not going that route as opposed to going ahead and "hoping" for the best.
I just feel there are enough people taking the plunge and messing up lives without another contribution, as sad as that is, I usually say that in a
joking way but unfortunately there is alot of truth in it.
So yeah don't let em make YOU feel like you're disillusioned BLESSING, because alot of folks these days are just that in thinking that life just
works out and all they had to do was make the baby. I see nothing wrong with how U feel on this issue.