Originally posted by mrwupy
I'm serious, we need to go back to the day when the grandmother, like my grandmother, would make us go out and pick a switch so they could give us a serious beating with it.
Originally posted by Thomas Crowne
God says to spare the rod is to spoil the child.
Some incidents have occurred in the ****** area recently that have broken my heart. My husband and I came from NY in 2001 and love this little city of ours, but it’s not going to be the wonderful place we feel it is for long if someone doesn’t do something.
We recently sold our ****** home and moved to another section of town. We never had any problems when we lived there. However, just prior to moving, a house was being constructed next to our lot. A few kids (young kids) were enjoying the newly laid foundation and hanging out with their skateboards and some music. They got a little rowdy and started messing with the plumbing lines on the site. They were asked to move on by my husband, and cautioned about harming the property but he was flatly ignored. Another neighbor chased them out afterwards.
My question to the parents of these children is – whatever happened to respecting your elders?
Anyway, we moved out of our beautiful home, but your new neighbors (who are lovely people by the way) had not yet moved in. We were stopping by to check on the house for them. On Saturday, December 17th the children were back. The walls of the house under construction are now up. When we arrived on Sunday our home had been vandalized by large chunks (A LOT) of concrete thrown through the screen into the pool and on the deck, and also some sort of target practice had occurred against the garage door, with a rather daunting pile of concrete chunks left as evidence.
So, under the assumption that those of you with children would be as horrified as I was to see what these basically good kids have done, I propose the following:
Talk to your kids! Straighten them out now! It also wouldn’t hurt if a few of the parents who might realize their kids were involved, for their sake mostly, to get together and have your children offer some sort of restitution to your new neighbors (What kind of a greeting is this?). I don’t think the monetary damage is beyond making the children work off the debt, but at least make them apologize for heavens sake, even with an anonymous card. In fact, since the damage to the house under construction is probably more extensive, I would almost recommend this route.
Now as a further precaution as to why you need to get your kids clear on respect of other people and their property, I have something to say to those of you who don’t have children but enjoyed (as we did) having them in the neighborhood.
Don’t waste your time trying to intervene if you see this type of activity in the future. This is not the world we grew up in where the children care if an adult admonishes them, and it may in fact lead to further retaliation just for fun. Call the ******* immediately and let them confront the kids and chase them off.
For the record, this is not a 911 call. You need to use the non-emergency number which is ***-****. This number has a recording but if you dial 0 you will get a person, even on the weekend. Use it!
(Used my former Title in lieu of my name)
P.S. I do not want to see any young child arrested for bad judgment and being bored, but I guarantee you will have worse problems than that if you don’t teach them a lesson now.
Thank you for your consideration
P.P.S I think I should share from my past experience in NY. There was a serious crime (almost cost a kid his life) that the kids filmed. The children were called in with their parents and told what had occurred. The parents flat out asked their kids in front of the officers if they were involved, and the kids told their parents no. The parents told the officers their kids don’t lie to them so they had the wrong kid. Then they were all shown the tape. What a wake up call. Kids are kids, they lie when they are cornered or when they feel trapped, they are only children, not saints. Love them, trust them, but don’t be naive.
Final comment: Please don’t use this incident to gossip and blame other peoples children behind your neighbors back. It won’t help and it serves no purpose. Take care of your own.
I am cc’ing the Sheriff with this letter. They should know who I am and I leave it in their judgment (and give my permission) to pass on my contact information to any parent who seriously wants to discuss this with me. I am not including my name here for obvious reasons, to just be harassed by people who don’t get it.