Originally posted by dr_strangecraft
I'm curious about the original post.
If a kid is punching and hitting the principal, or is hurting other kids, what is the appropriate response?
It is clear that all the posters here think handcuffs are inappropriate.
The police have a duty to protect the principal and the other kids from a child who is hitting kicking or punching them right?
So, what is the RIGHT way to restrain a child who is hurting others???
Well I don't know for sure. I wasn't there. Handcuffs are traumatic, humiliating and may be appropriate in some circumstances, but the option to
take the child out of the situation and give them a chance to calm down should be the first one. When they are calm, that is when you address the
behavior, and explain consequences and apply them consistantly. So it will stick, and they will learn something. If you use handcuffs and tazers all
they will learn is that they are victims. Not only will the behavior not change, it may very well get worse.
And, because it's worth mentioning again... A tazer? Come on.
Let me put things in perspective. I'm 5'3" tall, and hovering between 105 and 110.
My daughter is on the autistic spectrum, wasn't really verbal until four and prone to melt downs when 'over stimmed' until 5 and up to 6, and she
got the big genes. At three she was better than 40 lbs.
So, when the child flops on the floor and shrieks and kicks in the middle of Wal Mart, or the circus, or whatever event/circumstance we were at when
she hit critical mass because the clown scared her, or someone on the intercom startled her, or the lighting was wrong, or the stars alligned, or
whatever... This is how it would go:
105 lb me would scoop up 40 to 50+ lb squirming, writhing, screaming child, heft her over my shoulder like a sack of grain, clamp my arm behind her
knees and walk out to the truck. Without stopping, without resting, without putting her down, and most importantly without getting angry. Usually
dodging stares, comments and the occasional outraged blue-haired-finger-pointing-biddy who would (this would really happen... and frequently enough
that I developed a swivel-side-step-and-walk-on maneuver) stand in front of me to explain why I was either abusive, or obviously not smacking the kid
enough. After all of that, I would then proceed to wrestle the usually still kicking, noisy child into a car seat, and drive home.
I didn't yell. I didn't hit her. I didn't exaserbate the situation by frightening or stimulating her more. I didn't do anything accept restrict
her movement, remove her from the situation, and let her calm down. I would physically over power her, true. But the only reason I was able to do
that was because I remained calm, and did not get emotionally entrenched in her behavior. All that will do is make it worse.
Now, I am a big advocate for parents being allowed to discipline their own children, (and that's a whole 'nother saw, and maybe we'll get to that
later.) But one must assess the situation subjectively, and keep your emotions out of it; and I'm willing to bet that if one is willing to use a
damn tazer on a ten year old, or resort to handcuffs on an eight year old (or a five year old for that matter) one has no idea how to do either.
From where I'm standing I'm small, female, and I would put down real money, that I could have handled those circumstances better. These cops need
to grow a pair.