Sadly this is not news in South Africa. Kids (boys) rape classmates at extremely young ages. It's horrifying. And to make it worse many cases are
I have no idea how a 11 y.o. (or younger) boy would consider forcing himself on a female. Maybe it's the bad examples set on TV? Maybe that is the
reason why family TV programs shouldn't show "soft porn"/sex scenes... Sex is all around us. We shouldn't be surprised if they want to find out
what it's all about. But I think we're far past the point of no return if we were to decide to censor the planet again.
Boy 7, accused of rape
(Article in middle of the page.)
Three boys, aged between seven and 11, allegedly raped a
And these are to name just a random few...!
The high incidence of rape has a critical bearing on women's equality (Equality is of big importance in South Africa - and most modern countries).
Women are not free in our society. Women are not free from fear.
Girls are not free from the fear of assault in the school and in the home.
On a daily basis in schools across the nation, girls of every race and economic class encounter sexual violence and harassment.
Discrimination against girls based on gender perpetuates the educational gap between boys and girls.
The deeply buried beliefs and attitudes of men to women have to change.
There are two widespread myths about rape in our society.
Myth Number One: rape is committed by a small group of depraved and abnormal men. Wrong. A large class of normal boys and men commit rape.
Study after study has shown that men who rape are normal. But that does not mean that all men are rapists. It simply means that a tendency to rape is
encouraged by an acceptance of gender inequality, the prevalence of pornography for men, and the degree of social disorganization in a community.
Rape is culturally dictated and not culturally deviant.
Myth Number Two: women ask to be raped. Wrong. Women ask to be valued and loved.
Boys and men are taught that power, dominance and violence can be arousing to girls and women. And when boys are young and inexperienced, they do not
understand communicative sexuality, sexual pleasure and intimacy.
Instead boys and men look on rape as a form of shoplifting. They think they can simply take sex. Survey after survey has shown that our girls learn
that coerced sex is the norm. Men know taking sex is wrong, but there is a gray area between consent and coercion. And they think, it is not such a
serious harm. It is like shoplifting.
When life is hard and you are not likely to be caught, our boys and men think, why not?
It has to stop. 'Real men do not rape'. Real men think rape is the equivalent of murder. Real men do not think rape is a form of shoplifting.
Rape and murder are similar harms and they carry similar punishments under our law. Yet boys and men do not see rape as the equivalent of murder. And
until boys and men do, we will continue to see the levels of abuse of women and children that exist at the moment.
I'm sad to say that rape amongst the black communities is a bigger problem than in white cultures (in South Africa) but not
exclusive to black
or coloured communities. Problem is most rape cases are not reported, thus the statistics are not a true reflection. No, I'm not a racist. These are
the (distorted) facts.
SA Rape stats
This is a problem and no one is doing anything about it, except for some pointless add-campaigns. This is why tourists and outsiders fear South