Originally posted by Dr Love
To be a child of a mixed marriage is not a pleasant thing to be. It is hard for that child to find acceptance from either group, leading to
teenage angst and frustration. IMO this is selfishness on the parent's part.
This is the reality we live in......right or wrong!!!! Good post Nathraq.
This reminds me of when I was a teenager and my now Father in Law had a little talk about me dating his daughter.
"It's not that I have anything against mixed marriages, its just, what about the kids? What do they have to go through growing up, trying to find
out who they are?"
Imagine that, a white man filling me in on how hard it is for children of mixed descent to find their racial identity. I pose the same question to you
that I posed to him over 14 years ago...Are you mixed? If not, then what can you possibly know about finding your racial identity? Thank you for your
concern and all, but let those who deal with it worry about it. I think there is a bit of jungian projection with comments like these, perhaps you
mention people having problems because you yourself have a problem with it? Just a thought.
The fact of the matter is, it is only racists from both sides that I have ever even heard that crap from. Usually it is from whites, but I have heard
it from blacks as well. I for one have never had a problem with my racial identity as I was raised to know that I am mixed, and that I am not one or
the other. My Mother and Father obviously were not racists, but they were realistic about the world we lived in and they let me know that as long as I
do not try to fully identify with any one group then I will probably be fine, and I was.
I for one never really had any problems growing up, other than the daily question "What are you, I mean, ethnicity wise?" It did get annoying, but I
always did kind of like the way people tip-toed around the subject as if asking me if I was gay or something.
As for racial pride....I tend to think that people who have nothing to be proud of usually look beyond accomplishments to find something to be proud
of, i.e. race. Call me kooky but I will reserve my pride for that which I am responsible for, not something that had nothing to do with me in any way
shape or form. Try to find pride in accomplishment, not circumstance.
It's times like this that I am thankful for being of mixed descent, it is much easier to see all the B.S that comes from both sides whenever this
issue is brought up. One question though, for you or anyone really, why is the concept of existing without a single "race" so hard to understand? I
mean, does that much of your life seriously revolve around the fact that you are white (or black for that matter)? If so, then why? For me, my race(s)
is really never an issue, and outside of those pesky little forms that make me fill in "other", I never really think about my race.