posted on Aug, 13 2005 @ 06:08 PM
I just finished a conversation with a chap online who I've known for a few months.
He told me that I was a fool for having a particular surgery; moreover, I was "obviously taken in like a sheep" and didn't know any better.
According to this wise sage, I should have ignored the advice of three physicians, two women's advocacy groups and three endrocrinologists. I
should have tried herbal treatments, you see. According to this sage, "herbs would have probably cured you".
Listen.
I had a disease called adenomyosis. There is really no cure for a severe case of adenomyosis. If you're lucky, it's asymptomatic. If you're
not, it can make your life a living hell. It can make you wake up in such pain that you really cannot think straight. It can cause you so
much agony that Percocet only just manages to take the edge off of the stabbing discomfort. It can ruin your sex life, it can make you unfit to
work, and it can really make your life a misery.
I tried Lupron (a gonadotropin releasing agent, and used in conjunction with Aygestin to make life less hellish for my then-husband) for three cycles
of treatment, and I had laparoscopic surgery to see if anything could be done that way. Nothing worked. Nothing. We tried. Oh, how we
tried.
At the age of 28, I underwent a supracervical hysterectomy.
This was absolutely and utterly the last resort; after living on painkillers and hormones my quality of life was just...well, "terrible" doesn't
quite touch on it.
And yet here you come, with your misinformed judgemental twaddle, telling me I was "a sucker" for "letting them take away" my womb? Please.
Unless you've been in this position - you seriously should consider sitting down, swallowing the urge to "share", and STFU.
Seriously.
Because you - particularly because you're MALE - will never, ever know what it's like to be told you have such a condition, and moreover, to be told
at 28 that you will never, ever bear a child. Thankfully, you'll never understand what it's like to have to tell a potential partner that he'll
never be able to have a biological child with you.
Take your little packet of herbal goodness and shove it where you will - and you should be bloody thankful for this - never suffer from
adenomyosis.
This was a vent session. Aimed at someone who never reads these boards, and nobody who actually does read these boards. Thanks
[edit on 13-8-2005 by Tinkleflower]