Congratulations to all of you who've managed to bridge the distance and are enjoying a successful relationship; that's a beautiful thing
I also met my (ex)husband online, back in 1996. We fell in love, moved in together, and in 1998 we were married, after I moved to the US to be with
Alas, we seperated in May of 2004, and our divorce was finalised in January of this year. Though it took us a long time to acknowledge this, both
of us are now fairly sure that we rushed things, in part because of the ease at which you can "talk" to someone online who may seem to be everything
you want in a partner. It's very, very easy to "fall" for someone who pays you so much attention in that manner.
I still believe that online relationships can be beautiful, and work - their major flaw is that online you don't have the benefit of being able to
observe body language. Emotion can be misinterpreted very easily, as can intent and general demeanour.
I suppose if asked today, I'd be more likely to say "well..yes, some net relationships do work out. But many end in disappointment, and it's
often because they do lack that initial benefit of being able to look someone in the eyes as you talk with them".(or at the very least, take other
clues from body language, tone of voice, etc)
Bottom line (yes, I know I'm wordy. So sue me
Take your time. As with any relationship.
Be slightly cynical. As with any relationship.
And do NOT ignore any red lights that might be going off in your subconscious - if s/he sounds good to be true, s/he probably IS....