posted on Jul, 27 2005 @ 04:34 PM
I wanted to know if it's really better to have sex or not to in a relationship. For this thread I don't want to consider consequences such as
pregnancy or STDs, I just want to know about psychological and emotional problems it brings into the relationship. I don't want to hear stories about
how a girl got pregnant and that ruined the relationship, or how a couple got an STD and it ruined things, but stories of problems that arose because
of a couples fear of those things are fine.
Perhaps the girl becomes very attached to her boyfriend, but fears that he will leave her. She decides there is only one way to stop him from leaving
her, and that is to get pregnant. So she gets pregnant and it ruins everything.
Perhaps one person is in the mood but the other isn't and refuses to have sex. This could start many arguments easily.
Perhaps the guy gets spoiled when he realizes he could have sex with women so easily, and he starts being a total jerk to the girl.
Perhaps one of them becomes too clingy and obsessed with the other and starts making too many sacrifices for them, or gets angry when their partner
does something independently (in other words they become possessive).
I tend to think that sex in a relationship blinds the couple from other problems they have. Like for example maybe the girl hates how forgetful or
inconsiderate her man is, but she would be less likely to deal with this problem if the sex is good. In a relationship without sex people are more
honest about the problems they have with each other and trying to work them out.
Please post on this thread any problems that you've had with your partner that happened because you're having sex, and wouldn't have happened if
you weren't having sex, excluding pregnancy and STDs. And be sure to tell me if you think the problems outweigh the benefits of having sex.