do you find that you are often frowned upon by women who see you as competitive or a threat???
Absolutely, I cannot keep "girlfriends", because they are always worried about me trying to move into their territory, I have never dated a guy that
has even remotely been involved with a friend even after it's done . I look at them as forbidden territory, and I realize there are other fish in
I get along very easily men, I was in the ARMY for 8 years,and have no brothers, my father taught me all the things he would have passed onto a son,
being I was the eldest of 3 girls.I have common knoweledge and interests with more men than I do ladies. Most women take having a buddy conversation
about rebuilding a carberator equates to getting in the sack with someone. They dont look at it as just having a beer.
Most men as teenage boys, blew stuff up, and played with transformers, therefore the fact that I have handled live grenades, played football in 3rd
grade(because I wasn't "cute" enough to handle cheerleading)poured the foundation on a house, know how to work with pneumatic tools, etc.. usually
fascinates the beejeezus out of them. Hey I was even scouted for the WPFL for a quarterback position on the New England Storm, but tore my ACL.
When I was younger, my parents tried to turn me into the ultimate girl,I was always given things like barbies(which my dog gladly ate and disposed
of), dollhouses , I wanted the football and chemistry set. When I was given a tastybake oven, and a microscope, I made my dinky little cake, while
viewing slides of my hair at 100x magnification, my parents also instilled the importance of marrying a rich guy.. Ha!
Mom and Dad.
I was exposed to 5 years of ballet, etiqette classes, gymnastics, tap, and jazz, I rebelled, both of my sisters are typical girlies, that also rely
heavily on thier hubbys for their existance, ie my one sister owns 2 houses but only because her hubby works 3 jobs to support her. (which I feel bad
for him because he's a really good guy
I on the other hand take comfort in knowing that if my sink breaks, I'll repair it myself, I am truly self
sufficient down to the mechanics of my car.
Unlike popular belief, most men are deep creatures, just as women.
( Men do have the basic fears ingrained in their self, as do women,) but when you mix fear times testosterone, you usually end up with instinctual
agression.(passive or otherwise)Observe any male, and when he's told something that instills sorrow, the first instinct is usually to punch
I do believe chivalry went out the window, but I also think women's lib has taken too drastic an approach, I wanted to be the first female green
beret, (my dad was one, and I wanted to make him proud) But at the time there was another female who had the rank to try out, she realized it was
too hard, and quit. Same thing from the girl at the Citadel. Thanks alot, only makes alot of men say "Gee, we told you women can't do this"
So many women fight for equal rights, get them, and then ruin it for the ones, who are happy being recognized for the fact that we are beyond
cooking cleaning and birthing.
Ie we wanted to get equal rights in the workplace, ok, but why complain about jokes about breast size in a male dominated office. We can never
really have equal rights, as long as there are lascivious and frivolous lawsuits for sexual harrassment, because of
sex related remarks.
Both sides need to come to grips and realize that. If someone talking about their penis size starts making you uncomfortable, tell them all about the
circumcision video you watched on discovery the other night, trust me they wont mention their willies around you anymore.
Maybe I'm thicker skinned, than most people, I'm not exactly what you would say unattractive, I'm slender, and petite, I also tended bar not too
long ago while I was launching my company. The comments I, as well as any other female tender, received, were enough to make your ears bleed. You
respond by simply cutting off the booze, and then having them forcibly removed.
I too think that the market for things stating such as "Girl Power" have been completely misconstrued, and tiresome, in their interpretation, it is
ok for a little battle of the sexes, but to devoid all men of their basic instincts, and rights, IE provider, hunter, gatherer, procreator, has been
translated to "I will not let you provide me with the necessities of survival, because you are trying to say I can't do anything" We have
basically turned ourselves into emasculators, in the psychological sense.
The only thing I see wrong with men, is the fact that we women, have taken away their rightful place to be chivalrous. Most men are now afraid to do
things like pay, for fear of having it thrown up in their faces, being accused of being a sexist pig because they are assuming the woman can't handle
the bill. Their nature is to reproduce, and carry forth good genetics, so their heritage may continue. Many men raised to be "gentlemen" Are
ostracised by their female counterparts.
Upon the arrival of a womans right to choose, many men lost their right at procreation, I am not saying that a womans right to choose is a bad thing,
as I like control over my body, but women, who don't say a word about choosing to do something, that is wrong. This doesn't count in extreme
circumstances such as rape, or forcible pregnancies,after all he didn't consider your feelings.
To make it short, a buddy of mine was informed by his ex-wife, that she was pregnant with his twins, he was eccstastic, that there was a possibility
of them reconcilling, that he would be able to not only be a part of his 4 year olds life, he would be a new father.
She called him a week later to say that she miscarried, needless to say he was DEVISTATED. About a month after that, she admitted to him she had the
pregnancy terminated, because she didn't feel like going through with it. He is now a raging alcoholic, and noone has heard or seen from him in 2
weeks. Were getting very worried. She should be shot.
The problem with trying to find peace, coexists in your very spiritual nature, unless you take an objective approach, you will never find peace. Most
women are ingrained for empathy, while men are problem solvers. Men are very logical and basic in their thoughts, and because we women have so many
emotions, we tend to talk in riddles.
IE For women, I want a glass of water equates to please sypathize with my thirst, and ask what you can do. When Men say I want a glass of water,
that equates to please get me a glass of water. They know what its like to be thirsty, so thereofre no need to waste time sympathizing.When men learn
how to read between the lines, then women will stop speaking in riddles. And there will be peace.
Hope Ive clarified some...
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