Majic's Advice For The Lovelorn

NOTE: I originally sent this as a private message to a friend on another BB. With his anonymity assured, I am posting this here since it pretty much spells out my view of romance in general -- what I tell other men in private when no else is listening -- which, upon reflection, I would like to share with my fellow ATSers.

Well, okay. You asked for it. I'm not sure if I'm one to be giving advice like this, but this is my take on things based on what I've seen and done in my short life.

I'll summarize what comes off the top of my head here:

1. Don't be serious. If she's laughing, you're happy.

2. Never lie to a woman. Ever. They have powers.

3. Argue with a woman, but choose your battles. Normally, it is best to let them win, because women tend to be much smarter than men.

4. Don't be shy, but be cool. If you see a woman you find attractive, find out more. Sometimes just saying “hi” is all it takes, because she might feel the same way. Other times, it's best to ask and find out information quietly and subtly -- but don't be a stalker.

5. Be respectful. Women are cute, but don't let their good looks fool you. They are perhaps a different species, but they are still our fellow human beings. Treat every female friend at least as well as you treat male friends, and preferably better, because that's extremely important. Mutual respect is essential for romance, and it cannot survive without it.

6. Never propose romance. That is a woman's job. Don't push her. When she's ready, you'll know.

7. Never stop romance. Once a romantic relationship begins, it is the man's responsibility to keep things romantic. If you're not thinking of her every three seconds, then something's wrong. Meanwhile, if you are thinking of her every three seconds, then you can remember to do little things like buy her flowers or her favorite candy, or just give her a hug and a kiss. Never let her feel neglected. Let her know you can't stop thinking about her. Show it. Often.

8. Bend like a reed. Men and women are designed by God to piss each other off. Cut her all the slack you can, because brother, I assure you she's doing the same for you whether you know it or not. Don't be a doormat -- that's a very bad sign -- but be reasonable, even when emotion dictates otherwise, and you will never regret it.

9. Live in the now. Pay attention to what is happening right now in a romantic relationship. The past is gone and the future doesn't yet exist. If you focus on what's happening now, and leave the future to later, you are truly enjoying romance.

So, where do you find a woman? Everywhere. My friend, the good news is that there are more women in this world than men. Use this knowledge to your advantage.

You need not be “on the make” when girl-hunting, but it's wise to keep an open mind, and keep an eye out for hidden beauty in our mad, mad world.

Love surprises.

What makes romance so much fun is that it is so utterly unpredictable. You never know when it will strike, you never know when it will abandon you, and you never really know if that's what it really was in the first place.

Such is the mystery of romance.

I could say more, but I think you already know the game.

Good luck!

Majic


P.S. Not a licensed therapist.

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The Overpowering Smell Of Success

Originally posted by Lysergic
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Don't forget unofficial Rule #10: There's no such thing as too much cologne.

If it doesn't cause asphyxiation in close quarters, you're not wearing enough.

Originally posted by Majic
1. Don't be serious. If she's laughing, you're happy.

I'm naturally a very funnyguy, but my motto is - "If she's happy, I'm happy."

2. Never lie to a woman. Ever. They have powers.

Truer words have never been spoken.

but don't be a stalker.

Speak for yourself! Whois - Helping internet guys find an object of extreme affection's address for years!


Some good advice there, though. I've been accused of loving a little too much, but I've found that if you're just friendly to women, and treat them as you would a friend, all is going to go down smoothly. Obviously there's a difference in the kind of stuff you should bring up, but not too much - they have senses of humors too.

Another key thing is to not mix them up. Even if it's innocent (Call your better half someone else's name and they know there's nothing between you two, it won't go well, even if they say it does)

Finally, say you're sorry. Self explanatory, I hope.



I like girls...


I should add - if they say "Mmm, you smell nice" you are set.

[edit on 7/12/2005 by Amorymeltzer]