posted on Jun, 21 2005 @ 01:27 AM
I have been a little torn about you, on the one hand I wish to help, on the other we have only this typed connection to use. A big part of what I do
is to strengthen your resolve by example. If over time, with much discussion, you can come to trust me, this helps you to trust yourself.
But since this is the 3rd time since I have been here that I have seen someone with this problem I am going to explain the most basic of methods. I
know they work, and have done so time and time again for every student I have had in all my years of teaching.
If you have the power to feel other's emotions then you have the power to control it. That is not a guess. You should realize that if you cannot
control it then it is only because you choose to be that way. Any other attitude is false and dangerous.
Please read the above paragraph again, consider it for a moment. Reach down and ask yourself 'is this the truth'? You know it is, and you can judge
how far you are from where you should be by the strength of your response.
A shield is your way of expressing that control, if we had a nice simple switch that would be great but we do not. You have to apply your will to
control your abilities.
Again, please read that last paragraph once more and consider it for a moment.
Ok, now what you need to do is find a quiet spot, as alone as you can get. Empathy is not really limited by distance but seeing a person brings them
to your mind and does open the door a little wider.
Sit down, relax a bit. Spend a little time breathing, in through the nose, out through the mouth. I cannot stress enough how important this is, we
hold way more tension in our bodies than we should and this helps to release it.
Now close your eyes, keep breathing, and visualize a sphere of pale white energy around you. If you were standing it would be just beyond your
fingertips if you extended your arms (ie you never really come in contact with it except at your feet).
While you are doing this remind yourself of the things I said above, believe in yourself, believe in your power to control what you experience.
The key to making this work is belief and practice. Every time you sit down to practice you will find the shield works better and better. It is the
effort than makes it take hold, so find time at least every few days to spend 30 minutes or so.
It would be helpful if you would U2U me and fill me in on your background, what is your real name, how old are you, where did you grow up, do you have
any religious or other forms of training. I do not want your address, I do not want your phone number, but I am operating blind here and that is not
good for either of us.
If you are not comfortable with doing this then I can only suggest you look for someone you are comfortable with. It matters, a lot.
I wish I could be there in person, I wish my words and strength could be shared with you to make it easier but that is not possible. I barely know you
but I can feel you out there.
I believe in you, now it is time for you to do the same.