Originally posted by humbled_oneWhat i am trying to figure out is why sex (if not married) seems to be such a horrible sin. I
persoanlly feel it may be because it takes us further away from God spiritually as sex is mainly about the carnal flesh desires which really do not
have anything to do with spirit.... I forget how many times it is said a man thinks about sex everyday, but it is probably more then he thinks about
God. It seems that people are becoming more and more loose about sex and less spiritual. Especially online porn and how many are addicted to it.
How can you pray to God after looking at all the porn out there and not have those images burned into your mind as you are praying?
Wow! You've given this a lot of thought and brought up some interesting points. As to online porn.... Fantasy is always going to win out over
reality. Frustration and conflict tend to trigger our escape mechanism and fantasy offers an easy out or outlet as the case maybe.
The trick, I suppose, is to have a "real life" outlet (i.e., a loving partner). I'm married now and building a home and a family does wonders to
curb the old sex drive. LOL! Idle hands are the Devil's workshop, so ... making yourself too pooped to pop is the only sure fire answer to sexual
addiction that I'm aware of.
I don't know.... I've been so desensitized by the media that the "kink factor" in porn just doesn't do much for me. Of course, I'm not the
randy 18 year old I use to be.
Also, I'm turned off by how the media attempts to insult my intelligence with their "wiggle and jiggle" ads.
As for sex outside of marriage being a "horrible sin".... I think we have Augustine (355-430), Bishop of Hippo, to blame for this, in as much as he
is the architect of the Church's system of sexual thought -- not to mention the teachings of Thomas Aquinas (1225?-1274).
Augustine virtually equated "original sin" with "venereal concupiscence" - so that every child can be said literally to have been conceived in the
"sin" of its parents. This, of course, is not the approach to sexuality espoused by Judaism! Thank Heaven!
"A slight modification of the Augustinian theory was introduced by Gregory the Great, who reigned as Pope Gregory I from 590 to 604. In his view,
the evil element in coitus is to be found not in the act itself nor in the concupiscence (i.e., strong sexual desire) which impels it, but in the
peculiar sensual pleasure (voluptus carnis
) which accompanies it. The [delight] incidental even to lawful intercourse is always sinful; how
much more so when the couple's dominant motive is not procreational. For Gregory, coital evil lies not in the inordinate impulse of concupiscence
but in the acquiescence of the will in the enjoyment thereof....
Aquinas located the seat of 'coital evil' not in the act itself, nor in concupiscence, nor yet in venereal pleasure, but in what he regarded as the
act's inevitable irrationality. As Augustine, influenced by Platonic dualism, had viewed with suspicion anything deflecting from contemplation of
the Eternal, so Aquinas, equally inspired by Aristotle's doctrine of the golden mean, found an element of evil in whatever disturbed the exercise of
the rational faculty.
In the final determination of the Scholastics, coital pleasure was not sinful as such, but it could not be pursued for its own sake without sin:
within marriage the sin was always venial; outside of marriage, it was mortal."*
So, that's why sex outside of marriage is such a "horrible sin." Why? Because the Church tells us it is.
* - excerpt from David M. Feldman's book "Marital Relations, Birth Control and Abortion in Jewish Law" (pg. 84).
[ ] = my attempt to replace Feldman's $10 words.