posted on May, 10 2005 @ 11:39 AM
Originally posted by Ishes
Whenever I feel like that (which is rare), the reason I may seem to feel egotistical and self centred, is not in fact because I am, it is because I
look at things very objectively, I would be hurt because someone has done that to ME (Hence 'How could you have done this to ME!?') only because I
would never, ever, wish it on someone else, and would expect them to feel the same if they were in that situation.
I think it would depend on the situation. If for example, we had plans and I blew them off for something else, I can see the TO ME part in that. If
I drank the last beer (which I paid for, because he didn't work), I can even sort of see the TO ME part, because I could have offered to share.
However, when it gets to the point where I bought the wrong brand of toilet paper, and how could I have done that TO HIM, it gets old, real fast.
I notice you said you rarely do this, my ex could have had this tattooed on his forehead, he said it so much. This was a thrice daily occurence in my
home; and if I wasn't there, he would call me at work to scream at me. He is an extreme example though, and thankfully, I have never met another
person who is so self-absorbed and cruel in my life. Ahhh, to be young and stupid again.
In the end, I was one of those pathetic women whose husbands verbally abused them, and had a nervous breakdown. I spent all my time waiting for the
other shoe to drop. Not a healthy way to live.
I can see what you're getting at though. It's about being considerate of others and their feelings. That's important and an excellent quality in
a person. Unfortunately, I can attribute none of those qualities to my ex.