posted on Jul, 18 2003 @ 04:11 PM
Under one of my guises on another board, a question similar to this was posed and this is how I answered the poster.....maybe this can help you
understand what I was eluding to in my last post to you asking your "reasons for":
"Ah, the ego! Everyone seems to have one and most people are in the peculiar habit of attaching it to the things they believe, in other words,
identifying one's own beliefs.
When I was born..... I don't seriously remember what I believed, if anything. My first memories are from somewhere between the age of 1 and 2. I
remember being cuddled by my mothers arms and thinking how wonderful those big breast were. I also remember an old rocking chair that ended in wooden
lion's heads, their mouths wide open and I remember sticking my fingers in its mouth. I probably did that same thing whenever I sat in the chair
all the way up through adolescence without ever thinking about it.
It's these life experience's that we use to create our own beliefs, but all too often, someone helps us along, parents, siblings, teachers, mentors,
priests. It's called indoctrination, programming, brainwashing and it involves (whether the intentions are good or bad) not just giving you the
ready made beleifs but applying every sort of psychological trick in the book. In this way, most people are deprived from using their own life
experiences to create their own unique beliefs.
Some people never question their own beliefs or those "given" to them and procede through life in an almost robotic way indoctrinating, programming,
brainwashing others, repeating the same old patterns that brought them to believe what they believe. But at some point, some people stop and
question, perhaps not everything, but maybe one or two things. They search, they learn, they struggle to de-program those old beliefs and replace
them with their own creations.
Then comes the ego, the trap that closes the mind.
Most people don't realize that they have very little choice in what they actually believe. I mean, how do you change your beliefs? You don't just
wake up and say, "today, I'm going to believe in "X" the way you'd choose to put on a blue dress or have green eggs and ham for breakfast. Your
beliefs are the result of your life's experiences, the things you've been "given," the things you've seen, heard and touched, and the things you
have questioned, researched, and discovered for yourself. Your life experience, the beliefs you've been "given," the things you see, hear, and
touch, these things are not entirely under your control, so how can you help but to believe in certain things the way you do?
Formulating your OWN beliefs requires tremendous effort. Not physical effort, of course, as it would require to break out of a cage, but mental
effort to break free of the ego, that is, effort to stop identifying yourself with what you believe.
It's the old peculiar habit of identifying with one's beliefs that closes the mind to new information. You (we) grow up believing "X" having been
"given" that belief or having experienced something that created it in your (our) own mind. Someone says, "there is no X." You (we) DON'T say
(as you SHOULD,) "hmm, I wonder what makes him say that," but rather you (we) take it as a personal affront. "What do you mean, 'there is no X'?
Are you calling me a liar? Whats wrong with you? Get away from me! I hate you!" And so on so forth.....
Most people take something like "there is no X" as a challenge or a personal affront, rather than an opportunity to question ones own beliefs,
research the life experiences of the other person that has "given" him the belief that "there is no X" and progress.
It's not about being right and wrong, its about learning new things and progressing to a new level, evolving.
Meanwhile, if you aren't progressing, you're likely closing your mind to life experience of others, keeping your identity locked in that cage of
ego. And if you're doing that, then you'll tend to react to the beliefs of others with "You're wrong!" "You're a liar!" "You're a fool!"
"You're an idiot!".......etc, etc.
If you (we) have a tendency to insult or attack others because of your (our) beliefs, to hate others because of what they believe, etc., then you'd
(we'd) better take a good look at the lock on your egotistic cage.
Accepting and trying to "really" understand the beliefs of others in relation to your unlocking your "cage", requires study how one arrived at his
or her own beliefs. Accepting the beliefs of others as possibilities depending on new life experience that must be researched, questioning your OWN
beliefs always ready to abandon them for new horizons......thats how one evolves, progress's. Thats the only way to truly "love thy neighbor."
Thats truly the only way to "enlightenment."
As for my ego and beliefs, I'm not perfect, but I live in a constant state of total amazement....."
[Edited on 19-7-2003 by Seekerof]