posted on Jul, 15 2020 @ 12:16 PM
There are different levels of narcissism (Extreme / mild tendencies). The other thread sparked a convo with my sister last night about this same
She married 2 narcissists. One was a lazy ass, mind game paying, compulsive liar, that LOVED himself and cared for no one but himself. He’d stab
ANYONE in the back, if it made him look good.
The second was a lazy ass, mind game playing, physically abusive, completely forthright NON liar, that LOVED himself and cared for no one but
My ex was a complete lazy ass, beyond mind fu## games on an hourly basis, pathological liar, that LOVED herself and cared for no one but herself.
Constantly putting our children in terrible situations that benefit her, and her alone.
Our father, is not a lazy ass at all. To the contrary in fact. He’s creative and a producer. He is still a narcissist though, lies on occasion,
mentally abused my sister and I all growing up with constant ‘double binds’ and berating. Never ending ‘hammering’ on us. But he does care for
people, unlike the rest.
These have been the most impactful narcissists in our lives (there have been many others). We are in our 40’s.
We ranked them last night. Both of us absolutely agreed in the order of their severity.
Ranked worst to least as bad:
1. My ex was by far the worst. She virtually destroyed my entire family. She didn’t just affect me, she affected EVERYONE. And still does to this
day, due to us having children together.
2. My sisters 1st husband. No sense of reality whatsoever. Total POS, has two kids that look identical to him — but he wanted paternity tests on
both, so he could absolve himself of responsibility. Went to jail for not paying child support (he had the money). Thankfully those kids came after my
3. Sisters 2nd husband. Yeah, he beat her up a couple times. But at least he was honest about being a narcissist. Never lied to my sister by saying
‘I’ll get a job tomorrow, I promise”. The first husband just told her whatever she wanted to hear. But then did whatever he wanted (video
4. Our father. He falls into the moderate narcissist category. If he would just refrain from the double binds, mental abuse, always thinking the most
negative out of people — he’d be a pretty good person. But his constant negative thoughts get the best of him. We deal with it because we love
him. But it’s been an uphill battle our whole lives.
See what I’m saying here? Not everyone is an EXTREME narcissist, if they exhibit the characteristics. Some have narcissistic tendencies. Others are