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Originally posted by saint4God
If she could not forgive, it is best that she quit the church, else be accused of hypocrisy.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
Another example would be say a girl of 13 who gets raped, gets pregnant, and according to The Bible and the glorious devine word of God, she HAS to have that baby. Saint, before you were talking about God giving us choice. Where is the choice if The Bible tells you, you can't get an abortion
Originally posted by saint4God
"You shall not murder." - Exodus 20:13
"You shall not murder" - Deuteronomy 5:17
Originally posted by saint4God
There are 116 passages that talks about forgiveness.
Originally posted by saint4God
"Do this" or "do that" is Old Testament law. The New Testament goes further on how to think, not just what to think.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
But it has nothing to do with her beliefs, or being a 'bad' Christian because she cannot forgive. That's just her human nature that she can't bring herself to forgive to person that killed her daughter. So in a way you're saying block those human/natural emotions, and go against your feelings and just forgive as The Bible says to do.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
The thing is if you've never been in the position where you've lost a son/daughter, who was murdered, then how can you possibly judge that person's decision to not forgive that murderer?
Originally posted by shaunybaby
Nice how you avoided the whole point that I made. We could get in to the whole point about when exactly is 'life' actually 'life' obviously in your mind from conception, but not in mine, but that's a whole discussion on it's own.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
So.. every case is different. No one has the right to say you have to forgive someone, especially in circumstances where a person's daughter is murdered. There could be 10,000 passages on forgiveness.. doesn't make it any easier to forgive in such circumstances.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
Another example would be the 9/11 hijackers, why in the world should they be forgiven?
Originally posted by shaunybaby
Sure I understand that forgiveness is important, and loving your nieghbor or fellow human being, however there are some cases when this can be excused.
Originally posted by saint4God
In the same breath you're not allowed to condemn, judge or not-forgive, and you have to love your neighbor, and no abortions.. yeah lots of 'thinking' for the Christians.. Definitley not being told what to do.
Originally posted by saint4God
My initial reaction would probably be anger and a desire for retribution or vengence. This would be wrong of me, perhaps even a sin. Hopefully I would have the wits about me to remember what I've been studying. Not block or repress those feelings, but rather understand them and let them go. Ultimately forgiveness is the good thing to do.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
The thing is if you've never been in the position where you've lost a son/daughter, who was murdered, then how can you possibly judge that person's decision to not forgive that murderer?
Originally posted by saint4God
Firstly, you're making an assumption, albeit a correct one.
Originally posted by saint4God
I have lost a neice though, never to be seen again and it is painful. Rather than blaming those involved, I hope they've come to see and know love. I don't know by what foundation your saying I've never been in an extremely painful position and am unable to relate to people who suffer. On the contrary.
Originally posted by saint4God
I never said it was easy. In fact, you may quote me in saying that it is hard...as I have a few posts prior to.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
Sure I understand that forgiveness is important, and loving your nieghbor or fellow human being, however there are some cases when this can be excused.
Originally posted by saint4God
Where is that quoted or culminated from?
Originally posted by saint4God
If a person enjoys condemning, judging and not-forgiving, then yes I can see a definate incompatibility between them and God. As far as following rules/laws, you do it all the time...unless you're posting on ATS from prison.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
Well just because you don't forgive someone it doens't mean you have to hate them or feel anger towards them, you just don't feel like they deserve forgiveness.
Forgiveness is a great thing to do, and I think in some cases people do deserve forgiveness.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
However, it's easy for us to sit here and say you should forgive for whatever the reason, ignore your feelings, try to understand them and then let them go. Yet, it's another story altogether if you're actually in that posistion, rather than just a bystander like us.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
The thing is if you've never been in the position where you've lost a son/daughter, who was murdered, then how can you possibly judge that person's decision to not forgive that murderer?
Originally posted by shaunybaby
I made no assumption, as I don't know if you have been in that position, hopefully you never have or never will be.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
I never suggested that you had never felt the loss of a loved one. I have also, but never to such a thing as murder, or along the lines of 7/7. I can safely say that if such a thing occured to any member of my family, I wouldn't be able to forgive the person who did it, and nor would I want to forgive them.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
But just because you're able to forgive a murderer, I don't think that makes you a better person than someone who can't forgive a murderer.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
Not only has that woman lost a daughter in such horrific circumstances, but she's also now lost her faith.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
From me.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
Loving your fellow human being is important, as is forgiveness. We all do wrong, but with forgiveness we can make amends. On the other hand, in such extreme circumstances as a murder, or along the lines of 7/7, logic and reason get thrown out the window as the events are so sureal. And it's no longer a forgive or not to forgive decision, it becomes a whole lot more complicated.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
But just because you judge or don't forgive someone, it doens't mean you enjoy doing so.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
I might steal and break the law, however it becomes a whole different story when i'm stealing a loaf of bread and breaking the law to feed my poor family.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
There are rules and laws that we should follow, and it's true that people should try to forgive and love, however, in some circumstances rules need to be bent and even broken to allow for somethings, such as stealing a loaf of bread to feed your starving family. It's still breaking the law, but the 'reason' is good enough,
Originally posted by shaunybaby
I believe, that it should not warrant such judgement or punishment. Then again, everyone can't go around stealing because they're hungry, obviously there are limitations to rule breaking.
Originally posted by saint4God
Pride says we deserve things. We deserve nothing. What we get are blessings. In the same way we received those blessings, we are to be blessings to others. Who since birth fed, cared for and taught themself everything?
Originally posted by saint4God
Again you're assuming I've had no major sufferings though I don't know why.
Originally posted by saint4God
I'm not judging anyone, nor am I going by my own words.
Originally posted by saint4God
Neither of us would want to, but it is the right thing to do.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
But just because you're able to forgive a murderer, I don't think that makes you a better person than someone who can't forgive a murderer.
Originally posted by babloyi
But it does! You do not understand "The Absolute Power of Christianity!"!
If you do not forgive, you are just letting yourself in for more trauma. First you'd have to prove to the entire world about the fault of the murderer (the court cases, seeing the murderer again and again) and if you fail, the murderer goes free, causing you more trauma and (perhaps?) a desire for personal revenge (which would cause more trauma and problems). Even if the murderer got convicted (or killed), you'd always think they got off easy, they had a chance to get to terms with the end of their life, they got it less painful, etc.
If you love your enemies, their aggression has no use! Their injustice to you comes to their eyes. Once again, you hold them in your power. The Absolute Power of Christianity!
Originally posted by Prote
If someone murders your family member, you don't have to forgive them. This does NOT mean that you seek revenge, that you need to see the perpetrator pay, that you cannot find peace with yourself and the world again.
Originally posted by Prote
Not forgiving doesn't make you a bad person.
Originally posted by Prote
If you genuinely think the things you wrote are the only alternative to forgiveness, you reinforce my opinion that religion is not a good thing.
If you love your enemies, their aggression has no use! Their injustice to you comes to their eyes. Once again, you hold them in your power. The Absolute Power of Christianity!
If anyone, ever, can genuinely say that they love their enemies, I would propose they are loosening their interpretation of the definition of love, but I digress.
I don't have a problem with the sentiment of what you wrote here but do you see how you link this to Christianity. Love can exist without christianity.
If it were even possible to "love" someone who killed your mother (for example), why would being a christian be a pre requisite for this occurence?
If religion is teaching you to love the murderer of your family, how do you think this person would be judged differently to someone who was simply able to deal with the pain and move forward with their life, continuing to grow, love and develop?
Originally posted by babloyi
But it does! You do not understand "The Absolute Power of Christianity!"!
If you do not forgive, you are just letting yourself in for more trauma. First you'd have to prove to the entire world about the fault of the murderer (the court cases, seeing the murderer again and again) and if you fail, the murderer goes free, causing you more trauma and (perhaps?) a desire for personal revenge (which would cause more trauma and problems). Even if the murderer got convicted (or killed), you'd always think they got off easy, they had a chance to get to terms with the end of their life, they got it less painful, etc.
Originally posted by babloyi
If you forgive (truely and completely), all that is gone! Whatever may happen to the murderer, is out of your hands. You are totally released from the emotional burden. What is even more incredible, is that they are now completely and totally under your power. YOU GAVE THEM YOUR FORGIVENESS! They are indebted to you. They owe you their life (or at least some of their peace of mind).
Originally posted by babloyi
What does not forgiving mean, then? What is the difference between forgiving and not forgiving. Forgiving someone doesn't make what they did right. Neither does not forgiving someone. The whole point/meaning of "Forgiveness" is that you are saying to yourself "I do not require to see the perpetrator pay". How do you define forgiveness?
Originally posted by saint4God
Personally I was terrible at forgiving. I held grudges for weeks, months, even years. The longest being a decade and a half against my aunt. That was wrong. I've since forgiven and we're good with each other again, though I'll never get that lost time back. Nothing is more expensive than regret. Nevertheless, all we can affect is here and now, so will do my best to work within that temporal confine.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
Why is the murderer going to be free, just because you don't forgive him/her? you make many assumptions, and judgements such as if you forgive someone you are in fact a better person for doing so.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
You make it sound like when you forgive someone you ignore what they did and forgive them dispite their actions, that's why there's no emotional burden anymore because what you're doing is forgetting what that person did, which is totally the opposite of what you should do.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
But the perpertrator will still end up paying for his/her actions, such as a prison sentence. that's called justice. so whether you forgive them or not, they will still be brought to justice. and 25 years in prison would not neccesarily make the victim's family any satisfied. it's not always about an eye for an eye or seeking revenge.
Originally posted by babloyi
I love it when people misinterpret my ideas, especially when they end up with insulting me!
Originally posted by babloyi
Where did I say that the murderer goes free if you don't forgive him/her? Please point it out, because I can't seem to find it. Like I said, I'm just throwing out a few ideas, I have no idea where the whole bit about me being judgemental and presumptious is coming from.
Originally posted by babloyi
and if you fail, the murderer goes free
Originally posted by babloyi
a desire for personal revenge
Originally posted by babloyi
I don't think you understood what I said. I was not talking about an eye for an eye or revenge. My whole point was that '25 years in prison would not neccesarily make the victim's family any satisfied'. But forgiveness CAN do that. The whole point of forgiveness is that you don't need 'an eye for an eye or seeking revenge'.
Originally posted by shaunybaby
Originally posted by babloyi
and if you fail, the murderer goes free
sorry if it's confusing.
Originally posted by babloyi
a desire for personal revenge
Originally posted by babloyi
Read what I said again. "First you'd have to prove to the entire world about the fault of the murderer .... and if you fail, the murderer goes free, causing you ... a desire for personal revenge ". Please tell me again where I said that not forgiving someone lets them go free and gives you a desire for personal revenge.
Originally posted by babloyi
if you do not forgive, you are just letting yourself in for more trauma. First you'd have to prove to the entire world about the fault of the murderer (the court cases, seeing the murderer again and again) and if you fail, the murderer goes free, causing you more trauma and (perhaps?) a desire for personal revenge (which would cause more trauma and problems).
Originally posted by babloyi
I am not making any presumptions or passing any judgements. I never said that not forgiving necessarily leads to a desire for personal revenge. What I said was that forgiving someone would get rid of the desire for personal revenge. I never said anywhere that NOT forgiving someone makes you evil, or bad, etc. I made no such judgemental comment. I never said anywhere that I agree with what I wrote, once again I'll repeat that I was just passing around some ideas for discussion
Originally posted by dAlen
Nothing is absolute...
Originally posted by dAlen
except that there are no absolutes...
So even if it appears that way for now, it to will change.